<p>proudmom–I’m wondering if this isn’t just a case of the jitters? I’m sure lots of kids are having mini-freakouts around now. Asking themselves all the, “should have I applied to XXX?” questions. I’d probably do what I could in terms of exploring TX schools, but also remind her of the options she has and the reason she liked these schools.</p>
<p>And I guess I’m <mostly> not too anxious about sending in a deposit. It’s just that DS is. . . well. . . a guy and I’m wondering if he might just not notice the calendar?</mostly></p>
<p>proudmomof2 ~ I am sorry to hear what you have to deal with at this point. All I can say: don’t blame yourself. Teens are just complex creatures, lol.
I am not familiar with the schools in Texas, living in the other end of the country, so I really hope some of the ones that have been mentioned work for you. If not, then, a gap year might not be such a bad idea. It might be easier and less messy than a transfer. Best of luck to you!</p>
<p>proudmom - Woweee! Now who wouldn’t want to start back over at the beginning! I have thought alot about whether this decision would still be the “decision” if we did it all over given what I’ve learned. Maybe, but maybe not. Practically, I wouldn’t worry about school #1 and just let the deposit lie until you know what the other options are. It can still be the backup in case she just realizes it was jitters. I know from my ds, getting on the facebook class of '15 for the college he was about to pick, made his jitters disappear. I know nothing about Tx schools so I can’t help at all. Hope “this too shall pass”!</p>
<p>My feeling is that a kid who is willing to do the work on apps at this point, given how burned out pretty much everyone is on that, should have the chance. Anything that puts them in the driver’s seat and helps them feel like they controlled their destiny is a good thing. This is why we are letting our D do the WL - it required writing an essay, reaching out to an admissions counselor, diving back into that awful mess, and if she was willing to do it, we figured we wouldn’t deny her the opportunity to see if her work would pay off.</p>
<p>On the other hand, if a kid is the type who just keeps piling up options but always thinks the grass is greener, or maybe is just in love with the “what if” part of apps and doesn’t want to make a decision, then there’s a point where you might say enough is enough.</p>
<p>My general philosophy is to keep options open as much as possible, to avoid regrets, and then, when it finally feels right, to hone in on a decision.</p>
<p>I feel for you, that she took a comment you don’t even remember, and based her whole list on it. My D hinted at some choices she made in this process that were like that, and it makes me so sad. I guess that’s just how they are, though, at this age. And if kids make decisions based on freaky tornadoes, why not make them based on something they truly felt their parents felt strongly about (even if they misinterpreted it)? </p>
<p>Good luck - there are wonderful Texans here who I am sure can help you. There’s also a thread about another girl who wants to add schools now. I’d check that out (I think it’s the “Buyer’s Remorse” thread). Lots of good advice.</p>
<p>Our update for today - lots of gray skies still and bits of snow. It’s enough to make anyone want to crawl back into bed.</p>
<p>D still out of sorts. As a mom I’m worried there’s something she won’t/can’t tell me. Afraid she’s making the wrong choice? Something going on at school? Feeling weird about the end coming up? She has an errand to do this afternoon, and I said I’d go with her if her friend can’t. I’m kind of hoping that’s the case - she and I haven’t been out much together recently, and the conversations here at home don’t always have the same openness as one had over a decaf mocha, you know?</p>
<p>Hey, Proudmom, I’m here in Texas too – what do you need? The massive University of Texas is right across the street from me, but there are soooo many more choices here. I agree with a previous poster about St. Edward’s here in Austin – super school and if things had worked out differently with DS’ sport, he very well could be going there. So, as missypie said, let us know what you’re looking for – size, big city or not, etc. etc.</p>
<p>Amanda – more on the strep/not strep with DS . . . doc’s office called yesterday and said that even though the rapid strep test they did in the office was negative, the regular test showed a strain of strep that they sometimes don’t even treat because it goes away on its own. Nurse asked if he still had any symptoms – fever, sore throat. He didn’t have any more fever after that first day, but he does still have a sore throat (with one very swollen tonsil) so she called in an antibiotic. I’m sure that will knock it out quickly. Otherwise, he’s been feeling fine and played a soccer game with his club team on Monday and did fine.</p>
<p>proudmomof2 ~ Oh (amanda just reminded me, thanks), I would also hold on to the deposit at school #1, until things become clearer. As long as you are not committed to 2 schools, you are fine.</p>
<p>Proudmomof2~Sorry about your dilema those are difficlut times for students.
Try to post on the '10 thread we have a whole bunch of Texans.</p>
<p>Son is now counseling one of his dearest friend who is also confused .Hesitating between MIT and Stevens (was also accepted at HYPS, UPenn etc…)
Whatever schools you have to choose from, those are difficult times…patience is key :)</p>
<p>Momdoc~I got your pm (will get back to you) Congrats on the ND cashed check :)It is officially official! ** GO IRISH :D**</p>
<p>Shutterfly~The albums are arranged by updated new to old…Yes, I will post pictures over the week-end :D…</p>
<p>D and I took a road trip this past weekend to see her school. Just an informal trip to watch the spring football game and goof around on campus. We drove past her dorm and identified her room from the outside, went to the bookstore to buy yet more clothing and ate at our favorite place in town. Fun day. She has never waivered at all about her choice but I did notice that she changed her Facebook page to read “Mizzou class of '15”, so it must be starting to feel real to her.</p>
<p>On another note, I finally got around to adding to the Shutterfly account. No longer just a “creeper”.</p>
<p>lacrossemom: I called one college and they suggested that I fax the larger FA award document from another college. For the other college, I researched FA appeals on its website, found a special form for it, and then faxed that along with the larger FA award document. I only followed up with two schools, which were both among the top favorites on D’s list. The other schools D was accepted to with lesser FA awards, D turned down early in April. </p>
<p>As far as all of us on this thread being highly skilled in the college admissions process and not making any mistakes, I have to exempt myself from that group. Although it turned out just fine for my D overall, there are definitely things I would change based on what I learned in the process. For example, our HS has a good record of getting half a dozen kids or so into a top school, but I did not know last fall that essentially ALL of those kids had been accepted EA in the past (and of course D did not apply EA). Still, I can’t complain — my D has some great choices.</p>
<p>proudmom - Maybe a gap year is what your D needs. Then she can take the time to decide where she really wants to go. Then you won’t feel so rushed into picking a colleg based on how has openings at this point. Or she could still go to the committed school for a year and transfer to a TX school later. She may find that she really does like that school.</p>
kathiep, I was going to see if I could even figure out how to get on the site to see some of your smiling faces, but now I see your point. Since I’m not ready to post, it’s probably creepy to peek.</p>
<p>So why don’t I post a cute pic of sb and me? Well…first I’d have to find a cute one of me (nobody hold your breath), and then I’d have to figure out how to do it. I told you people early on that I am THE LEAST tech-savvy among us. I’m pretty proud that I even know how to use this site and LinkedIn. That’s the extent of it. But I do have goals and dreams…I’ll get there one day. I should at least post one of sb. She’s very pretty, IMHO. :)</p>
<p>Thank you for the financial appeal responses - I suppose what I am really talking about isn’t the size of the award, but the determination of family contribution - so of two profile schools that both are meeting need, one determines family contribution several thousand dollars higher than the other. Would that be something to discuss? I feel SO awkward about it! </p>
<p>Critter - Of course I remember you! You and your D were very very helpful for my S and he was totally in love with CMC, but I think he has moved on to understand the WL is a huge longshot. He is staying on the WL, though, just in case!
He may follow his big bro, or he may head to tornado land — I’ll keep you posted! </p>
<p>Proudmom - you’ve gotten great advice! I don’t know if these schools would still be accepting apps, but our S was interested in Southwestern U (near Austin) - small with nice academics, and Austin College. I’m sure the Texans here can give you lots of good advice in that area. The gap year idea sounds like a good one to me - but most of all, just know we are all doing the best we can!</p>
<p>For those of you following my job saga, my district announced today the layoff of 192 classified staff (instructional assistants, custodians, office staff, etc) and the remaining folks have a salary cut of 4.75%
Teachers are next! I suppose the best I can hope for is news in time to do a financial aid appeal. Right now I only know there will BE a pay cut (if I have a job) but I don’t know how much of one, so there isn’t really any info for me to share with a college. AAARRRGH.
BUT - it’s finally SUNNY :)</p>
<p>Aw MOSB- go ahead and peek. S’ok by me because it was set up so no downloads and access limited to regular posters not someone we’ve never heard from before. (You have to PM to get access.)
YMMV</p>
<p>Dkarth: We’re headed to Columbia on Friday to “wander” and “pretend” as well. Curious to know which restaurant is your “favorite.” So many to choose from. </p>
<p>proudmom: I have some knowledge of Texas schools through my work. Feel free to send me a message if you have specific schools that your daughter is now considering. </p>
<p>Did you all know that College Confidential knows our birthdays? I don’t remember giving that information when I registered. Kind of freaked me out!</p>
<p>**The SS Indecision left port on April 1st.</p>
<p>The ship will stop in many ports this month with the last port call scheduled in 12 days when all final commitments to schools are due. (Or nautically speaking, it’s time to sink or swim.)**</p>
<p>Yay…I think I got the album set right…
Had to wrangle to get the name changed from the date I created it to my screen name…
I have wondered about posting a pic or two. Especially when there can be “stalker” types on the net…
Have to hope that the moderator of our group is careful ;o) and allows our cruise group alone.</p>
<p>FWIW,
If it were up to me I’d join the shutterfly group and post pictures. Bluejr specifically asked me not to. Since I knew I wouldn’t be posting I didn’t feel right joining to ‘peek’ at everyone else’s pictures. Oh well… I’ll just continue with the images in my minds eye. I do feel a bit envious when I hear someone’s posted pictures though.</p>
<p>proudmom, no advice for you, just empathy. I’m having a time time over different issues. Come sit by me, and we’ll have our little break-downs together.</p>
GO IRISH :D**</p>
I do feel a bit envious when I hear someone’s posted pictures though.</p>