I have an S18, so getting into that thread a little. Right now PSAT is major topic of course.
On 16 front, D remains freaked out that she has no idea what to major in. She wants to find something she loves, that doesn’t have too many requirements, and she can get a job in later. I’m no use–I just think she should find something she loves and let the rest play out.
D had her last final yesterday and hands in her last paper today. We weren’t sure when we booked her flight home about her finals schedule because she has more papers than actual tests, so she won’t be home until Thursday. That works out since she hasn’t even begun packing so she’ll have all day tomorrow to get it done. She is so ready to have a nice long break from school even though she is happy there.
Glad your D will be home soon! @sseamom I will be home one week from tomorrow.
I had a long text string from D last night after I went to bed agonizing over whether she should shower before bed (wet hair in bed annoying), in the morning (have to get up earlier, wet hair going outside in cold), or skip it altogether (but she hasn’t showered since Monday).
Clearly the finals stress is kicking in. Wishing all of you and yours the most peaceful first set of finals possible.
@mom23travelers I would have voted for taking the shower, but using dry shampoo instead of washing her hair. Hope her final went well!
Great idea @RyanG1207 ! I’m adding dry shampoo to my stocking stuffer list.
D has a very difficult week this week. This is the last week of classes but most of her professors decided to give finals this week instead of next. She is all stressed out this week as she has multiple finals on top of classes. Then her last project is due on Saturday and she is completely done except for one final next Thursday. So she has to hang around for 5 days just to take one test. She isn’t flying out until late Saturday afternoon because one of those finals that she had this week was supposed to be next Saturday morning. I’ve looked at changing her flight but it seems that it will cost a lot so we will probably stick with what we have.
D is having major issues with her roommate. Among other things, she is inviting people into the room for extended periods when my D is trying to study or sleep, she “forgets” to shut the door all the way at night, and seems to be a habitual liar. Apparently she is flying home this weekend without taking finals. She lied and told the school that someone in her family died so they allowed her to reschedule them. D is just beside herself about this. I told her to just let it go and karma will eventually get her. At least she has the room to herself for a week. D doesn’t want to ask for a new roommate because she is afraid that they will make her move from the floor and all her other friends are there.
On the home front, my H was given the option to take an early retirement package. It was offered to all that will be 62 next year and older (yeah we are old parents). This was not in our plan. In addition to D16, we have an S19. H is afraid that if he doesn’t take it he may be laid off and then get nothing as his whole division isn’t doing well. We’ve been running lots of numbers trying to see if we can make this work. Decisions, decisions.
Having just read through the last 4 pages of CC, I always learn something new! Being so far away I have no idea what’s happening with DS apart from the odd txt or snapchat, he had his first snow ever last night!
I am guessing he’s handling everything himself, as he now has a bank account, a credit card, 2 jobs, I see he’s booked himself a flight to NY to spend Christmas with his cousin as I can’t afford to bring him all the way back to Zim, and he asked if he could move into a College Apartment next year (which I said no to because it is substantially more per year), so think he must also be choosing housing. I feel very left out not being involved but am so pleased he’s managing to sort it all out himself. He’s got himself his credits from his A levels, dropped a course this semester which he was struggling with, sorted out his classes for next semester, got in the extra credits he wanted. He’s been injured so has managed to get himself to 3 separate doctors appointments with different specialists as well as send me a text the one day saying he’s in hospital for the day having another treatment. I guess all this is happening without me being involved so I have to finally realise my little boy is now all grown up and independent, not sure how that makes me feel, proud or sad, a combination of both I suppose 
@zimmum your son is certainly mature and resourceful! I completely understand how you feel-my son was in the service and across the world at 18 as well.
@me29034 I’m so sorry that your D is having a rough time. I think I’d encourage her to move-there are stairs and elevators and the kids can visit between floors-that seems to be the case at D’s school-the girls are back and forth all the time. It must be miserable living like she is. Good luck with your decision re your H’s retirement and your D’s finals. Sounds like a rough week.
The time has gone by so quickly-seems like we were all just agonizing over acceptances and here they are finishing their first semester! Good luck to everyone!
@me29034 I’m sorry that you’re daughter is having issues with her roommate in addition to all of her last minute projects and studying . It truly is stressful for her , as well as you. DS16 is also feeling the stress with last minute responsibilities . As an older parent myself, I completely understand trying to know what to do about your husband’s offer. Hoping for clarity for your family .
Thanks @sseamom and @carolinamom2boys. Things aren’t really that bad for D. It probably came across worse in my post than it really is. The good part is, that when I talk to her, I don’t get one complaint about academics. She loves her classes and her friends, and is still doing well. Now It’s just all about the roommate. After all the stories D has told I’ll admit I’m beginning to wonder if the roommate will come back after Christmas break. Going home a week early before the semester ends and not taking finals - who does that?
@me29034 That crossed my mind too.
@me29034 Very entitled people do that. It eventually goes poorly for them, hopefully your D will not get caught too deeply in this.
@me29034, sorry to hear about your D’s roommate situation. It does sound like at least your D can enjoy some quiet time in the room herself, which will a nice way to unwind a bit after such a stressful week. Sorry to hear that your H is having to think about such options related to his job, too. especially right around the holiday season. I hope some of the stress lets up soon so that you can enjoy the holidays!
Hoping it all resolves itself soon @me29034 ! Could your husband take the early retirement and do something else? The buyout might just provide the cushion needed to allow that.
I am betting the roommate will not be back.
DS will be home one week from tomorrow. We are already booking appointments with service people that he can let in while we are at the office. >:) His job during the break has become managing home maintenance since he did not look for anything else.
Kiddo is done, has to have room inspection and turn in her keys for break, and is working this evening. She will be home about midnight. She did well, 2 definite A’s and 2 low A’s/high B’s depending on the finals.
Today is the one year anniversary of my college acceptance and my last day of classes of the semester. I’ll be home Wednesday afternoon after 2 finals. @me29034 I feel so bad for your D. A bad roommate must be awful. My advice to her from seeing people in similar situations- if this girl comes back next semester, sit her down and come up with a roommate contract if you did not earlier in the year. And then if the problems continue talk to the RA
Congrats to your DC @kandcsmom ! One down, 7 to go.
D got in last night and got her final grade this morning-she finished with a solid A- for the semester with 18 credits. She loves her school and though she’s VERY happy to be home, is looking forward to seeing what her next semester has to offer. Tomorrow we get our Christmas tree and this afternoon she’s booked me to drive her to the dollar store for new Christmas decorations and of course, the hair store next to it. My birthday was earlier this week and she brought home a sweet book that she filled in on pages with prompts like, “What I love about my mom is…” One page mentioned my willingness to drive her places. Glad to know she appreciates that!
Your babygirl puts the awe in awesome, @sseamom. Your time with her always sounds so fulfilling, and so sweet.