Midwest67, I hope she finds someone without too much stress. I’m surprised the other girl can jump ship at this late date without incurring on-campus housing charges.
I had the same thought about breaking the housing contract. I tried to ask D about it, but she shut the conversation down.
^ I’m sorry she has to go through this. I showed up sophomore year, and my roommate was a stranger- which came as a shock since my planned roommate had flunked out and felt bad and didn’t want to tell me - so she didn’t!
There is still time so she will hopefully be able to find another nice girl to room with.
I’m getting a little anxious for S to come home. He’ll be here Thursday through Sunday. Older S is having a blast overseas, contemplating grad school, and D is at her first work conference. I’m glad my kids are all leading exciting lives.
I hope it all works out @Midwest67. Seems a little awkward for your D16 but I am guessing there is more to the story that she is deciding not to tell you yet, for whatever reason. Maybe the roommate has taken an interest in something or someone that was not part of the decision process in November?
DS is back on campus. We all enjoyed his spring break. I am trying hard not to think that it might be the last one he spends at home. Only 8 weeks left in the semester and he will be home for the summer. Time is flying by. Class selection for the fall is not far away.
It might depend on the school, at my D’s I think you can get your housing deposit back until April 15th.
They are all different. Our school gives you 30 days to back out. But if you want a pick of the good dorms/rooms, you need to make your decision in October. So you’re stuck if you change your mind in the spring. I think you’re responsible for most of the housing contract once your cancellation period is over.
Hey, @palm715 , it’s really great to have you back.
Your daughter sounds intense, focused and amazing. I am really excited to hear how busy and engaged she is at college, clearly accomplishing the goals she sets for herself.
Well, once again, howdy!
D is has another 4 days of spring break with us. One of her goals was to figure out her summer plans and apply to some jobs. But after 4 days home, no progress had been made and whenever I brought it up, I got a sour look. Finally I suggested she go in and chat with her boss from last summer—just to say hi and see what the options were. She said she didn’t want to do that job again (it’s teaching in a summer program), but since she didn’t anything else lined up, I figured she should at least go talk to them. Anyhow I come home and I find her in the living room doing a happy-dance and texting friends about how she has a job lined up for summer. So turns out that ‘I don’t want to do that’ was more ‘I’m feeling shy and uncertain’. So summer is lined up. Mornings working at her job and afternoon classes. She has a long list of classes she wants to do—mainly art classes at a local art institute.
After a shaky start, we’re seeing some much-needed encouraging signs. D16 was accepted into an undergrad fellowship program, but isn’t sure yet whether she’ll take the next step and accept the offer. I’ll try not to die a little inside if she passes it up. She also got news that she was accepted into a pre-professional major, so she is officially on a 3 year track now. She also told us she got a job off-campus. The third one, being the most surprising to us. lol
Someone, please, buy me a drink. So many ups and downs.
We are enjoying having DS home for spring break - he’s been sleeping in late, going to his old team’s games with DD and friends from HS and his college, and watching movies with us each evening. We even get to celebrate his birthday with him today (well, until he goes out tonight with friends) so I took him out to lunch and shopping for new shoes. It will be hard to have him leave on Sunday, but he plans to come back for Easter weekend, at least.
He’s started picking classes for next spring before his advisor meeting…hard to believe they are already registering for next fall! For summer jobs, I think he has 2 intern options but he hasn’t gotten around to asking either of them. They are parents of his HS friends, but I’m worried if he waits too long someone else will grab the positions before he gets around to finding out how to apply! Ugh…
DS16 is not doing any internships this summer. He wants to get a few more programming classes under his belt, but he will be working. Just not sure where yet. He’s taking a Maymester course in San Francisco touring various tech companies. He’s very excited .
My D16 is “pretty sure” she can work at her job from last summer but didn’t quite get around to stopping into the store during spring break. She did somehow have time for me to replace her lost glasses and broken iPhone screen before returning to school.
An internship is not feasible for this summer and might not be feasible until after junior year coursework. Since she’s in a field where most internships would be full-time and unpaid, I am fine with her earning some money this summer and I’m looking forward to having her home (she’s already hinted that this will be her last summer at home if she can help it).
My D completed gobs of applications for RVUs and internships this summer with nothing panning out. I was afraid she would take this hard, but she had a good conversation with her advisor who suggested she reach out to the local university here at home and offer to volunteer in a lab that interests her. She got a positive reply within 15 minutes of her first email. Woohoo! I think the “sting” of not getting something glamorous is also lessened by the fact she realized spending another summer in Hawaii is really not that awful. 
Congratulations to all with summer opportunities lined up! I so enjoy hearing how they all are doing. They have grown up so much in just a few months.
Today is a big day in my transition to more about me and less about being Mom. I am picking up a new (to me) car. The old minivan is good for move in and out but otherwise is more vehicle than I need. It also would not be great for D20 to practice driving in, so off it goes for another family to enjoy. Parking garages are going to be SO much easier for me now!!!
@cheeringsection, good for you!
Our minivan was vital to have when I was carting around three kids and their friends. Also good to have for college move-in and out.
I am hoping it hangs in a little longer, until D moves into an off-campus apartment. Also would be nice not to have a car payment when my S starts college and D will be a senior.
But yes, I plan to get something smaller when it’s time to replace it.
S did not fancy driving around in a minivan and finally decided to learn to drive our other car with manual transmission.
You’ll be seeing an update from me a week from today…D’s school has guaranteed housing, but we just found out that returning students all have to pick on April 1 to get the best choices. If they skip that day, they have to wait until July. Since the sign-ups take place in the lobby of D’s dorm, I told her to drag her roommate down in her PJ’s if necessary to be as close to first in line as possible if they want that coveted room.
^^^I’d say take a sleeping bag and pillow down the night before,@sseamom.
@carolinamom2boys, @carolinamom2boys, @carolinamom2boys…
My daughter loooves College of Charleston!!!
I didn’t know that she could ever be that “jazzed” about people, place and time spent than she was when she was there. To see her face light up, her hands fly all over the place as she related her time in a classroom with a professor who spoke a lot of ‘data points,’ as she delighted in how much she loved the other kids, the students’ engagement in a dynamic classroom, the young lady who hosted her, the beauty of the campus…I thought I would melt away at her joy.
There’s more to say, and more for us to do, but I just thought I would let you - and everyone here - know that her time on the campus was nothing short of a m a z i n g.
@Waiting2exhale YAY!!! I am so excited . I always worry that I may be overselling the school when I talk about it, but for the right student, it is so exciting to hear that they “get” it. Please keep me posted .
@sseamon - That sounds really annoying and stressful! My D16’s school opened up housing to returning students in early December!