Well, we’re back from Carleton, and I guess my Mom radar is still in working order - CoyoteSon told me at lunch in the dining hall that “the bad news is that I can’t decide if Carleton or Beloit is better”. I will have to help him dig deeper to do a side by side comparison, but the truth is that I think both schools are a good fit, but for different reasons. :-??
But I had a blast at Carleton - I loved the student center with a big open space next to a snack bar/coffee shop, and a couple of pool tables upstairs on the balcony. The welcome dinner food was great - and we were seated as if at a wedding reception - round tables - with a professor at each table of accepted students and parents. At the end of dinner, a brief speech from the Prez plus 2 acapella groups and a soloist on a Chinese instrument (I missed the name of the instrument, but sounded like a cross between a guitar and a violin). The live performance of this song was my favorite, capturing the sci/fi nerdy Carleton spirit which makes it a good fit:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lk5_OSsawz4
CoyoteSon enjoyed the classes, especially the challenging history class, and while his host was busy with homework, CoyoteSon took his directions and went across campus to a big game room, again with pool tables and foozball, and yes, a big video game set up - so CoyoteSon happily played SuperSmash Bros til about midnight. I noticed that there were whole shelves full of board games in the student center, the library, and the famous Cookie House (where CoyoteSon and I sampled warm cookies together on Thursday, and I met up with the fellow CCer who gave me about half a dozen warm Monster Cookies to share with CoyoteSon (though I certainly ate my share) - Yum!
The admitted student day, with various panels, professor’s office hours, and a good system for having students sit in on 2 classes of their choice, with the opportunity to eat in the dining hall or just eat light lunch at the panel discussions - it was very well organized. Plus they arranged special buses to take us back to the airport, with a subway boxed lunch for our trip. I felt very welcome - and of course, the sun came out for a wonderful 60-degree spring day.
So I am staying with @93pilots in undecided land. I will give CoyoteSon a day or two to process, and then follow @eandesmom’s example to have a meeting to discuss pros and cons. It isn’t really the classic big fish/little fish problem - it’s more about whether an academic minimalist (not quite slacker, but almost!), who in high school has relied on his natural abilities to get by easily - CoyoteSon does everything that is required, but in the most minimal way - and whether he will rise to the challenge to keep up with what would be a challenging workload (and work even harder for him, given his ADHD/executive functioning deficiencies). Anyway - that’s the question - can the academic minimalist thrive at the challenge level where he intellectually belongs, or will he be better off at a less stringent level where he is more likely to excel?
So much news while I was away!
@Klinska - First - CONGRATS on Denison!!! To finish up the discussion we were having a couple of days ago - I totally agree with you about the “judginess” that comes across in some other CC threads about only the elites being worth full pay, and yet also the the contradictory advice that one should take the cheapest option because any kid can grow where planted and the name of the UG doesn’t matter. Thank goodness for @eandesmom and this thread where everyone feels so welcome and supported no matter their kid’s stats or kid’s/parents choices!
Welcome to @4kids4us and @Brunoandbeansmom!
@fishnlines29 - thanks for sharing your D’s story on AP Physics - CoyoteSon hasn’t cracked an AP prep book for Calculus or for Government, and now that college admission is done, I’m just not that fussed about what he gets. I just wanted to say that you are a great Mom to support your D by praising her for her effort at studying, despite feeling discouraged because other kids seem to find the topic easier. I think this is a perfect example of a parent supporting the “Growth Mindset” recommended by Carol Dweck - so thanks for reminding me how important it is to praise the effort, and not necessarily the outcome.
in struggling sons of calculus news - I can report that visiting the calculus tutor once a week allowed CoyoteSon to score an 88% average for a B+ for the third quarter. Yay!
I have more to catch up on - but have to run for now…