@bigmacbeth congrats to her for finding the dress! I guess that’s kind of like finding a boyfriend or girlfriend too - when you’re not looking?
DS came home this week after a club and said that he gave someone a Lyft home today. He’s given plenty of rides home but never done this. I asked why would he do that using his own money. I also said what would’ve happened if you’d not been there and where was his family. He said not everyone has a momanager. And right there, I realized I had a new title. I like it. Is DH a dadanager? Doesn’t seem to work as well.
I also realized that some are not as fortunate and I’m extremely grateful for the time, energy, resources, and inclination DH and I have to be there for our children.
He’s growing up before my eyes and he’ll soon be gone - off to college. Yay! and sigh
“Momager” maybe?
DS20 received his final admissions decision yesterday for UConn Storrs (in state). He was accepted to the business school but for a program that puts him at a branch campus for fall then xfers him to the flagship in January.
He’s at work, so we haven’t had a chance to discuss how he feels about it yet. I have mixed feelings for him because I know he wants the full fall on-campus experience, but I’m going to keep it upbeat when we talk later, as he’s lucky to have gotten in period. Admissions to UConn in-state is honestly so competitive that I wouldn’t have been surprised if he had been waitlisted or denied, especially to the business school. Apparently he has the choice of moving to the waiting list for full fall Storrs admission, but would give up this spring scenario if he goes that route, so it’s a gamble. It also sounds like he can appeal, but that process seems less clear to me. Or he could of course take the offer as is or go elsewhere. If anyone has had a child do a program like this at any school, I’d love your insight in terms of whether or not you feel missing out on the fall on-campus experience was ultimately worth it.
So, now he has a decision to make. Of all 11 acceptances, he has narrowed it down to UMass (merit), College of Charleston (merit), URI (honors and merit), Rutgers (no merit), and now this UConn option. They are all great schools, so these are good problems to have! Trying to keep that perspective in the midst of the stress, both for myself and DS.
@CTCape He really does have great choices all around. Is the COA for UConn substantially more or less than the others? Is his Umass acceptance to Isenberg?
Thanks, he really does. If he really wants UConn, he needs to take the opportunity he has, or take his chances on the waiting list. It’s about 8k more at UMass than Uconn with the merit. No Isenberg, but he would attempt to xfer if he goes there. We fully realize these are first world problems!
One thing I would be sure to take into account is the direct admits to business schools v. trying to transfer in once there. For example, transferring in to Isenberg depends on overall GPA, and grades in their predictor courses. He will need to do extremely well in those predictor courses to get accepted. So, he should probably take some time to think about how he would feel if he was not accepted to Isenberg and ended up staying in Humanities.
Those are very different environments. URI is nothing like Rutgers which isn’t really like CoC. I think you need to look carefully at “fit” when weighing the options.
@ProfSD We went to the accepted students day and got some direct feedback about the xfer requirements and process, so he knows he would need to be satisfied with the Econ program if he chooses UMass if he can’t meet those requirements.
@eb23282 Totally agree. At this point, he feels he could be happy at UMass or Rutgers easily after multiple visits to both. Rutgers is the the current front runner. We’re scheduled to do URI accepted students day in a couple of weeks. He liked It there a lot and was impressed with the honors program, but has concerns about the social scene being pretty Greek and/or revolving around off campus beach houses and needing a car. Then we had to Charleston over Apr break.
Now that we have all of the info to work with and return visits set, I think it will come together. The UConn spring option admit adds a new layer to the thought process, so we will probably add in a visit to the Hartford campus and one more trip to Storrs. It’s only an hour away, and if it helps him decide, it’s a no brained.
My D17 loved U of South Carolina, Furman (maybe ‘liked a whole lot’), Pitt, and Michigan State. All different. All fits. A lot goes into ‘fit’, besides perceptions. And, IMO, kids can ‘fit’ at multiple schools. You can meet your best friends in life at multiple different schools. You can get that awesome internship at multiple different schools. You can connect with your professors at multiple different schools. Fit doesn’t necessarily mean one single school. That’s just a way to put more pressure on these kids.
I agree. There are things about each of ds’s options that make them a good fit for him, so it’s a ultimately going to be a matter of where he feels most comfortable.
The UConn spring admit just sort of threw us a curveball. It has not been his first choice up to this point, because he really wants to go out of state. However, he also understands that it’s excellent academically and had been coming from the viewpoint that if he got in, he needed to seriously consider it. If he had been rejected, he would have just moved on. This other option means it’s less cut and dry, but I’m sure he can figure it out. Again, first world problems.
@ctcape right there with you weighing the options. Recent news could have brought so much clarity! Scholarship news was once again a “maybe” rather than a “yes” or “no” so our collective dreams of moving to the next stage of this process are frustrated yet again. Four options at the moment. The most affordable is clearly not her #1 based upon other criteria, but may now require another visit to be sure about that. Without the special program, yesterday’s #1, may no longer hold that slot. I have no idea where she stands right now on her other two where she has been granted admission. I guess we are waiting for the decision from a fifth school but not assuming it will become the front runner, even if she is admitted. Looks like summer vacation planning will be on hold quite a bit longer. Anyone else starting to feel like their entire life is being held hostage by this process?!? The rank and match process of other countries and US Med-schools is starting to sound like a great alternative.
@Cheeringsection Yes to feeling held hostage to the process! The maybes are the hard ones, because you can’t help them mourn and move on, which would just be cleaner and lend clarity to the decision making.
Anyone else starting to feel like their entire life is being held hostage by this process?!?
Sigh. A thousand times yes.
@ShrimpBurrito Absolutely.
We were visiting at a school this weekend that we were pretty certain was off the list. DS talked to the scholarship people and found out he was a “next in line” alternate for an engineering scholarship. So does that literally mean NEXT as in one person declines their enrollment and he gets the scholarship? Probably not, yet now we’re sitting here waiting for those letters that are supposed to come out end of March, beginning of April.
Definitely feeling held hostage by the process! Cannot wait for the next two weeks when several unknowns will become knowns. Of course depending on how that goes DD will either have an easy decision, or still a tough one. I had no clue how easy I had it with my DS18 who had one school he was sort of leaning towards and then they gave him the best net cost as well as honors, which didn’t even require a separate application. So much easier and quicker! I think for him we were done with everything by mid February or something along those lines. Not the case this time around.
But DD did find a nice prom dress with only one store visited, though it did require ordering her size online but that came and it fit great, so at least that has been pain free! And she can wear her heels from last year. So, prom shopping is all done, and didn’t cost an arm and a leg to boot.
I was excited entering March, as it is this month we have been waiting so long to arrive. I cant wait for the decisions to come in later this month!! I think i am more excited than my daughter. I am excited to hear the scholarship offers and final prices. I see us on the road for a good part of April visiting the colleges she is accepted.
We went to admitted student’s day yesterday and my son seems super happy! He took it very seriously, reached out to many clubs, took in a mock class, and made lots of small talk with other students. I really think he’s going to love this school…I kind of want to go there! lol Very happy we are done, time to enjoy the last of senior year and having him home.
My D has been doing homework all weekend. The load is insane for her and her cohort. It’s been this way for the last two years and she has declared that she is “done with high school.”
So, as much as I want to chime in that I feel like a hostage of the process, I just can’t. She is the real hostage here. Having received a couple of acceptances, the bulk of them are forthcoming which adds to the anxiety.
We can’t even talk about prom which isn’t for a couple of months.