Completely agree. I had a colleague that when asked would tell people she went to school in new haven. Absolutely a humble brag for her and incredibly annoying to the rest of us! To each his ownđ
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Congrats!! I am with you on the done with that forever! This is my 4th but unlike you I canât say mine are all on the East Coast!! 
Mine are literally all over the place - West Coast, East Coast, South and Midwest. Empty nester with lots of places to visit I suppose is the perk. I would like to think I am done with the school process forever but Iâm not 100% sure I am. One is applying for her MPA which she has already told she wonât have a problem getting in, but that same one every so often talks about law school a few years after working for a bit soâŠI guess we shall see. The ironic thing with that is neither of her parents are lawyers, but both step-parents are and 2 Uncles and a Grandparent. None chose to follow their parent and aunt who are Drâs which I donât know what to make of. Is it the state of medicine these days, disinterest, long haul, or hopefully just finding something they all love and want to pursue.
God bless all of our children and seniors this year and those who have more to come and those who have paved the road for all these kids.
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In my experience, this phenomenon does not exist with parents. But anyway, you are missing my point.
Yeah that I donât understand. People arenât stupid. Just say Yale. I wouldnât call that a humble brag. Thatâs just an outright brag. If you donât want people to know or are really being humble people do know how to downplay it. Those that truly donât will pull some crap like that which is why it is annoying.
Itâs also like the people who are Drâs and insist someone call them a Dr, even in social settings. There are times I remember with my ex husband when I used to tell him he needed to use his title, like for things when our kids had issues to get attention. Sadly it worked and he knew when but otherwise, he never used it and hated it. He used to say why do Drâs go by Dr but lawyers donât go by Dr when theyâre Drâs also? Heâs right. Theyâre Juris Dr but Iâve never heard anyone call a lawyer a Dr.
My momâs oncologist wonât even let us call him Dr. Heâs amazing and so down to earth. I still do because I canât help itâŠbut really humanizing to the patient and itâs wonderful.
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I think it depends where you are and who you are speaking with. I live in a low-SES, small-town area where the majority do not have any 4-year degree, let alone an elite one. There are so many social divides in this town as is (local folks vs out-of-towners is a big one) without giving people any more reason to be put off or to feel uncomfortable. My H has degrees from MIT and a UC ( not Cal). Around here, itâs not humble-bragging for him to deflect âŠitâs simply a matter of not rubbing peopleâs faces in something that could seem almost alien to many. Anyway, Iâd say most people around here donât know the sub-text of what âBostonâ or âCaliforniaâ mean and donât care. With Hâs colleagues, Iâm sure heâs given the direct answer, but once is enough. I mean, the whole situation just doesnât come up that much. Itâs a different sort of life. Thereâs no networking and you rarely meet a new person, anyway.
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Definitely agree. I live in an affluent area 15 minutes from San Francisco.
Yeah not missing the point. Iâm married to an Ivy Leaguer and he also doesnât say âI went to xxxâ. It just isnât a big deal to him. He has never run out and put his diploma out in front to show off for his clients to see it has never been something he has used to garner clients or started off a conversation with or even ended one with. So, no not missing the point. He just doesnât care about it, cares about what he did with his brain, what others have done with theirs and not so much about what school theyâve come from. One of the best attorneys he ever worked with went to SIU law school. Not a top law schoolâŠa lot of it is who your mentors were out in the field not who you rubbed shoulders with in college or law school.
Weâre also in the camp of not sharing where we went to school. I usually say âback Eastâ if someone asks. We trash talk with our friend who went to a hockey rival but other than that, I have no idea who went to school where. (Except for the neighbors with some Big 10 affiliation that fly their flags when their team is in town to play NU).
Here is a better explainer than I can do in this format. And of course it does not apply to everyone who attended such a school.
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I think thatâs a big part of it. The MIT and Yale references were in Texas where a Boston or Connecticut (or âback Eastâ) reference is enough to stop the school discussion. Most people donât care.
Itâs fairly rampant in NYC with HY grads where you have to peel back multiple layers. Therefore I heard the Connecticut comment and asked how he enjoyed UConnâŠor was it University of New Haven. We can then talk for quite a while about their school and experience and my schools never come up. Haha.
Same is true for an awesome school without a widespread reputation. I once had a wonderful discussion with a Deep Springs College grad.
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I read a piece about Deep Springs in the New Yorker, I think. What an experience that could be for the right kid.
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Iâm lost. Why does it matter if one brags about their Ivy college or not? Or calls themselves a premed or not? 
Yesterday, at the gym, I watched a couple guys squat 562 lbs and tell me theyâre âgoing lightâ today. Bragging? Yes, but I believed them. 
Itâs all good.
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Is it an OSU flag? My neighbor went to OSU and theyâre the only people I ever see fly flags for a school! When we used to live in Iowa City same thing. The only person on our street with a flag was an OSU person!
Maybe I should now get a Michigan flag just to annoy her for the big OSU v UM game. 
Now that is hysterical. You shouldâve said back that you just finished 600lbs.
@tristatecoog Honestly if someone told me they went to school back East in Connecticut, I probably wouldâve just assumed they went to UConn or Hartford. Never would even cross my mind about Yale and personally I wouldnât have cared. I donât know why people even need to brag anyway. Some people canât go to those schools not because they couldnât get in, but a) because they didnât want to or b) they couldnât afford it or c) some other reason perhaps. It doesnât make them any better than someone else.
Also, nowadays when I read up on someoneâs biography, like a particular Senator or Representative I am sometimes disgusted at where they went to school and how someone supposedly that smart could have gone to some of those schools and think to myself that maybe theyâre really not that smart afterall and boy I would never want to be associated with some of those schools. Yikes!
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I doubt the OSU fan would be bothered, since OSU has won the last 15 of 16 football games.
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My neighborhood has a ton of college flags flying during college football season. My one neighbor always has a U Miami flag and it gets stolen weekly.
@srparent15 and donât ever forget, itâs âThe Ohio State University!â My coworkers and new hires always make sure we remember that so I always emphasize âTHE.â It makes them happy and we all have a good laugh at how big of a deal it is to them for us to say it just like that :).
I have a lot of friends who went to Ivies and they always say âback east,â and I honestly think and know that theyâre doing it because they donât want to come across like theyâre showing off. They just donât really care and donât think other people would care. If people ask specifics they will openly share the college name, but Iâve never known for them to care about it. Itâs not that big of a deal. The only time theyâve ever brought up their alma mater often has been this year, TBH. And that was because they wanted me to know that S21 could reach out to interview prep with them since they do alum interviews when requested. And now theyâre excited because they want to take him under their wings and share with him what they experienced and learned and how they think east coast exposure is so different from CA experiences (theyâve taught and then went to grad school in CA or vice versa). Last Friday it dawned on me my friend actually went to Yale after he asked me about S21âs dorm situation.
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We have Michigan, Iowa, Purdue, Michigan State, and OSU all represented on game days. Running joke is that in non covid years the visiting fans outnumber NU fans because itâs impossible to get tickets when most of these teams are at home.
I donât think any of us took Physics, but I think we all basically understood Newtonâs Second Law of Motion F=ma. When you donât have either mass or acceleration, 600lbs ainât going to happen.
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Here in the SF Bay Area, we donât see many, if any, school flags. Both Cal and Stanford are an embarrassment. 