I have twin DDs who graduated from college this past May. They went to two different colleges (although my third DD ended up at one of her sister’s colleges.) I think it was good for them. They’re as close as ever now and stayed in touch with FT over the years. I think you’re very smart to keep your thoughts and wishes about the outcome to yourself. We were lucky because drop off was two different days and graduations were a week apart. Good luck with the journey!