<p>On the Facebook page "The Unified", the admin posted that he was going to delete all of the posts that were acceptances to programs, because they cause too much angst to other members. </p>
<p>I have heard this before concerning individual FB pages and college acceptance postings (either from parent or student). </p>
<p>How do y'all feel about that?</p>
<p>If one doesn’t want to see the acceptances, then don’t go on the page. </p>
<p>I’m not a member of that group, but posting one’s acceptances is just the natural progression of how the MT audition process works-- Just like this forum. </p>
<p>I don’t see how that information can keep from spreading. People are understandably very excited about acceptances and are going to share the information somewhere, somehow. Some of the kids are linked on FB on their personal pages besides on the unified FB page.
I for one was very glad to hear the details of connections’s son’s acceptance to UNCSA. They got a thin letter for an acceptance. Now I know that a thin letter in MY mailbox can be either an acceptance or a rejection and my heart won’t sink to my shoes when I open the box and see a thin letter!</p>
<p>The reason is “because its stressful”…welcome to adulthood.</p>
<p>That is one of the purposes of that page so they can connect with future classmates as well as students that are from the school. Several of last years students are student reps on that page and they are there to answer questions they might have about the program. Unfortunately it might stress some of the kids out and like @MTMahorCook said welcome to adulthood. If they are stressed about seeing that information they should leave the group or hide the newsfeed from the fb page</p>
<p>As I understand it - it’s a group founded several years ago by that guy who posted about taking down posts - and he creates a new one each year for the next class of auditionees - and he had specific rules and guidelines in the page info. His goal is to create a collaborative space - and he feels that posting acceptances creates a competitive atmosphere. It’s his page - he gets to make the rules! If the kids object - they can tell him - or create their own page not bound by his restraints. Me? I’m just a fly on the wall there.</p>
<p>Agreed, @MTMajorCook - the stress just becomes a steady low hum in the back of your head that you learn to live with. Any kid who has been involved in MT for an extended length of time already knows how to channel the stress.</p>
<p>@kategrizz, I didn’t see anything in the page guidelines that said he didn’t want people to post their acceptances. I did see “This is also to squander any sort of harsh feelings or competition” and “If this isn’t your thing…leave the group or don’t join at all”.
I guess I don’t automatically assume that acceptance announcements equal competition. I haven’t seen any cat fighting to mean things said to one another. I haven’t read a post saying that one program is better than another, or people are upset because someone “less talented” got into a program and they didn’t. </p>
<p>People seem excited, anxious, sad, supportive, and dejected just like on CC and many other boards. </p>
<p>Unfortunately, harsh feelings and competition is usually the nature of this biz. How we handle those things is totally different. </p>
<p>@sydsim - I totally agree - I was just pointing out that he’s the admin - it’s his sandbox - he gets to make the rules. I don’t necessarily agree with him. I thought I did read something in the guidelines about not posting acceptances - but it’s been a couple of weeks since I read them.</p>
<p>I think it’s a great board - I’m not sure why he would mess with something that seems to be working. I’m with you - I have seen no fighting or arrogance or anything that would concern me - but again - not my sandbox!</p>
<p>I agree - his group, his rules, but D found her classmates there last year & then they made their own MT/Acting BFA group from there, which was a wonderful way for them to get to know each other since they’re from all over!</p>
<p>Interesting to note that, so far, 166 students on The Unified group have “liked” the moderator’s decision to remove the Acceptances thread. And there are still plenty of ways in that FB group to find out who’s been accepted where, as kids routinely post comments about notifications by specific schools.</p>
<p>They have a decisions doc that the kids will go to to find their classmates…fyi</p>
<p>I’m gonna be the contrarian here. There are current students from lots of programs on those pages, as well as parents and coaches. Your kids are on there with their full names listed. I’m not sure it helps these kids to be posting their acceptances on FB or Twitter or anywhere, if they are still waiting for news from another program. (FYI: There is a Twitter feed dedicated to retweeting BFA MT acceptance posts – I’m not sure kids are even aware of that.) And university admissions offices definitely do twitter searches for their names and retweet students announcing their acceptances, so an innocent, excited post can be spread far and wide. A simple search of Twitter will elicit examples of this. Anyway, I’m not saying it happens, but if a program is on the fence about a student, and they happen to hear from one of their current students or see on Twitter or elsewhere, that a certain boy or girl just got into another program, perhaps they might think, “oh well, maybe I’ll use that spot for someone else.” There’s also a real potential for misinformation if well-meaning friends are sharing news. Again – I’M NOT SAYING IT HAPPENS – but I cannot see how posting on social media about acceptances helps. Be happy, share your news in person with your friends and family, but maybe think about keeping it off social media, which can be VERY VERY public.</p>
<p>I could not agree more MTTwinsinCA. I enjoy reading the posts about people’s acceptances etc.as well as the next guy/gal, and I understand that it is fun to talk about. But out of concern for all of the above, and no clear understanding of why I should post a list of acceptances since you really can only go to one school, I never posted my daughter’s list of acceptances here in CC and I won’t post my son’s list either. They both were on notice from me that they were NOT to post their own acceptances in FB either. No judgment, just saying that I chose not to go there out of concern for the risk and no obvious benefit.</p>
<p>I did post the final decision here in CC once it was made and they eventually mentioned their final decisions in FB. The rest of the details never saw the light of day in social media for all of the above reasons . Sure we don’t use our own names here in CC, but if you share enough detail, it’s not that hard to figure out who is who so I just didn’t want to risk a college putting two and two together in the event I said something that maybe I shouldn’t. </p>
<p>Now that you have mentioned the public nature of those FB posts, I am amazed at what some of those kids have posted on the horror story post. They criticize faculty by name, admit to having lied during interviews, and use language that is in extremely poor taste to describe some of these events. All of this has been posted online BEFORE they have even received all offers from schools. What are they thinking!!!</p>
<p>They are young and they think they are invisible. It’s a mistake.</p>
<p>I’ve shared before on these pages that I didn’t really understand the real reason it’s called COLLEGE CONFIDENTIAL is because its supposed to be CONFIDENTIAL. Way back during my boys’ sophomore year in HS, I picked the name MTTwinsinCA. Boy did that one bite me back when we stepped into the Palmer Hilton and a young girl said to my boys “are you the twins from California on College Confidential?” Oh well. Too late. It’s the one thing I would have monitored more closely in hindsight. I’m sure my boys made many of the same youthful judgement calls in those MT FB groups too. But these days, I just think discretion is best. And especially on Twitter which is SO SO SO searchable unless you have your profile really locked down. </p>
<p>I haven’t seen the Facebook page, but must add (I posted earlier about my daughter finding her classmates in the FB page last year) that it was AFTER they’d all accepted. She posted nothing anywhere until she had made her final decision & I wasn’t even on CC until this year. So scary what kids post for the world to see! Most of us on here are very aware of what our kids are doing, but apparently a lot of people are not! I’m the mom who follows her kids (and many of their friends) on Twitter and is their friend on Facebook. </p>
<p>Thanks, kategrizz. </p>
<p>@connections. We aren’t talking about CC, but rather the Facebook group for this years auditioning kids on Facebook “the Unified”. I think we all have our level of comfort with sharing on social media, and how it might track back to the colleges our kids are considering. I doubt things will change much here on CC. </p>