<p>I have a huge issue on my hands... i hate college. Im currently a freshman, about a week into my year, and am ready to transfer already.
This quote from another post basically sums up my feelings:
"I have pretty much given up on finding any real friends at the college I go to. I know one or two interesting, smart, inquisitive and genuine people at my college. The rest, especially my hallmates, are absolute idiots. Uninteresting and uninterested, they are completely depressing to be around. They have absolutely no class (and I don't mean this in a "manners" or fashion sense...they are rude, loud, vulgar, homophobic, mysoginistic, and genuinely suck). Unfortunately, I have no choice but to eat with them, go out with them on weekends---although this trend is waning---and endure their behavior 24/7.
The era of intellectual exploration is over. College, save for the elite institutions, is no longer a time reserved to discover one's self...it is a time to sit through boring lectures to get a BA in business or something to make a ton of money, while in the meantime getting drunk, getting laid, gettin rowdy and for all intents and purposes being a total zombie."
My issue is SHOULD I TELL MY PARENTS? There are a few things you should consider before answering.
1. Im from Arkansas and attending college in Arizona, 20 hours away.
2. It is costing both my parents and myself a small fortune to pay for my college.
3. I am a film student and feel I'm better off at an art school where i can immerse myself in it (I've decided on Colorado Film School considering its reputation and low sticker price)
4. I have until next wednesday to get a full refund.
5. my parents have already purchased a large amount of stuff for my dorm/ school supplies/ season game tickets/ train pass/ books and it was expensive and would be difficult to get the stuff back to arkansas.</p>
<p>PLEASE HELP ME! Do i tell my parents and go back to arkansas?</p>
<p>To be honest, I would just go with your gut instincts. But if I were you, I would just stick with the school you are going to, but if you truly feel like it isn’t for you, then get the refund by all means. I think the first year is always the “worst” because you’re with a lot of people who don’t really have any directions with their lives, so it’s hard to find people who share the same interest(s). As you get older and move up grades, the classes become more personal with people who actually have interest in that area, so you can relate to them more and make much better friends. If you really don’t like your school by the time junior year rolls in, that’s when I would consider transferring. Also, join clubs of your relevant interests.</p>
<p>If you don’t want to go to college right now, don’t go to college. Hold that $30,000 or $50,000 per year investment until you are in a position to benefit from it. (Trust me, retrospectively I wish that I had postponed college because I was unhappy and went about it with the completely wrong attitude for the first two years. It feels like a lost opportunity now.)</p>
<p>Two things I wanted to throw out there:</p>
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<li><p>Shipping two boxes of dorm stuff home is like what, $100? That’s peanuts compared to the cost of a year of college, don’t worry about it.</p></li>
<li><p>Have you thought about what you want to do instead of going to college this year? Are prepared to work a menial full-time job? Or do you think that your parents would fund a more “educational” gap year, e.g. interning or volunteering? Try to come up with a plan before you leave school!</p></li>
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<p>It sounds like you’re just overwhelmed, which can happen to anyone. Don’t give up so easily and force yourself to finish the semester. After you’ve had several months under your belt, you will be in a much better position to find out if college really isn’t for you or if it’s just a case of newbie nerves.</p>
<p>sounds like hes going to ASU…don’t let the first week influence you. There are enough people at a single college to at least provide some friends that you’ll have classes with and be able to hang with.</p>
<p>The first week or two at any college is generally crazy, with students going wild with their first taste of complete freedom. Things generally settle down some once classes start. And then really settle down once the first set of midterms comes and goes.</p>
<p>A lot of students at the beginning are loud and obnoxious at the beginning just because they are insecure and putting on a facade of what they think a college student should be like…if you look around, you’ll notice that you don’t see a lot of upperclassmen running around like over-hyped louts, travelling in packs of a dozen or more.</p>
<p>Don’t put too much pressure on yourself right now. Figure out what you really want to do and what your motivations are.</p>
<p>Please see a counselor at the college to talk this over. I’m not saying there is anything “wrong” with you…but they can help you sort this out and make the best decision, including a strategy for dealing with your parents. Good luck.</p>
<p>I think you should dicuss your concerns with your parents
Why ? Because you are into Film study business. You are different from people who study Biology, Computer Science, etc …<br>
My 2 cents</p>
<p>I’m having the same thoughts myself. I can withdraw by the end of the week and get 100% of my money back, but I think I’m going to stick it through until the end of the semester and go to a school closer to home (I’m 5 hours away, though). Definitely talk it through with your parents as they are the ones funding your education. I just had the same conversation with my mom about leaving. I bought sheets and storage stuff for my dorm room and a small TV, but if I do decide to leave, then I’ll just take that as a loss.</p>
<p>If you give yourself more time to think things through (unless your family is strapped for cash, then things might seem a bit more rushed) you may decide you want to stay, which I why I’m giving myself until the end of the semester. Since I don’t have to pay a deposit at the other school, I’m going to register for classes there for next semester and here and then give myself until around Thanksgiving/Christmas to decide.</p>