POLL: Would you want your wife to work or stay a home?

[fauxmaven]

<p>I was a stay at home mom for 25 years . I am 58 and only worked about 10 years of my life . What you don’t know is how your child/children will be treated when you aren’t around . The saddest thing I ever saw was a little boy ,about a year old ,in the market with his caregiver . He kept saying ,"I want my mommy " over and over .She finally yelled at him, "Just shut up ! Your mommy isn’t here ! " and he was quiet . Tell me that experiences like that on a regular basis don’t have an effect on your child . I had 4 kids and was very involved as a mom . Now ,I do volunteer work which is very rewarding . If you could ,I would have a parent stay home until the child is 4 or so ,and can tell you what happens on a daily basis . I know there are wonderful caregivers out there ,but they aren’t the problem .</p>

[stressedouttt]

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I can see from your initial response that you’re a girl who would rather stay home. I’m not even going to get into how pathetic I think that is, because I could really not care less about your life.

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<p>OK, first of all how is it more sexist to think that all women should stay at home than to say that all women shouldn’t stay at home, like you seem to be implying? the point of women’s rights is to give the woman the choice. not to push women in one direction or the other.</p>

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But I’m just going to add that your bias is pretty obvious when you say that “modern doesn’t mean it’s better.” Who cares what you think about what is better? It’s still how it is. Are you implying that you think it’s going to change and go back to the traditional gender roles? I really doubt that today’s females would let that happen. In certain areas of the world, though, men and women are not seen as equals, so I guess I’ll change my answer to: In today’s <em>America</em>, it just is not realistic to expect either parent to stay home.
But really, if you’re a girl, I’m just curious why you would even have an opinion like that.
There’s really no difference in the guy staying home. Or getting a nanny.

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<p>I think you misunderstood me. I’m not saying that all women (or anyone for that matter) have to stay at home. that’s a personal choice. I was trying to say that all women shouldn’t have to work, like I thought you were implying. I don’t think it’ll go back to traditional gender roles, but I’m saying that either working or staying at home are individualistic. one doesn’t triumph over the other. </p>

<p>although I still disagree that it’s not realistic to have either parent stay at home. even in America, people have a great variety of lifestyles. there’s nothing wrong with both parents working, but there’s nothing wrong with housewives or househusbands either.</p>

[alluriste]

<p>^Can you elaborate? I think that’s an interesting preference, and I’ve definitely heard similar sentiments from my guy friends.</p>

[Niquii77]

<p>I agree with Rusty. If I had the choice I would stay at home. Not because of laziness but I’d like to take care of my husband when he comes home. Plus I think I’d be less crabby. A stressed wife is someone no one wants to be around.</p>