<p>Assuming that you have a financially secure job and can afford to live comfortably, would you want your partner to have a job or stay at home?</p>
<p>Does it matter what type of job? </p>
<p>(This question is mainly directly towards the guys, since stay-at-home dads aren't exactly the norm...though all responses are welcomed!)</p>
<p>I think after I had kids, I’d want to stay home with them. (I’m a girl in case you couldn’t tell. Lol) I have mixed emotions about this. I’d love to be able to stay home and not have them have to go to daycare, but then college/med school and everything I’m doing now would be a waste. </p>
<p>Luckily I don’t have to think about this for awhile.</p>
<p>There are a LOT of SAH dads now. The last time I took a kid to the doctor, there were many more dads than moms there! I think you need to reword your question - would you want one of the spouses to stay home?</p>
<p>By 2020, more women than men will be in the workforce in the US.</p>
<p>I’d prefer it if we both work personally. Then we can both follow our dreams and hopefully raise good kids along the way. I know some people are fine staying at home, but I know I’d never be, and I wouldn’t expect my future spouse to give up their career either.</p>
<p>I agree with MaineLonghorn, since this thread could easily get offensive and sexist. Which, of course, wasn’t your original intent. </p>
<p>SATBioDiscussion, you could easily stay at home and bond with your kid(s) as well. What if your wife wants that from you? </p>
<p>I agree with TickGrey- I don’t want someone to have to compromise his lifestyle just for me. If he voluntarily decides to stay at home, though, that’s cool. But I assume the majority of people on CC want to get married to someone educated. If your spouse merely stays at home with the kids, isn’t their thorough education slightly wasted?</p>
<p>One thing to think about, seriously. I have quite a few college-educated friends who stayed at home with their kids for 15 years or so. Then they realize they need to get a job to help pay for college for their kids. And guess what? It is almost impossible to get a job that pays anything at all if you’ve been out of the workforce that long. They end up substitute teaching or working at LL Bean’s for $12/hour. It’s a good idea to do at least some freelance work while the kids are growing up - that’s what I did, as an engineer/AutoCAD drafter (I’m female).</p>
<p>I’ld personally want to stay at home (I’m a girl). I want to take care of the house, watch the kids, and support future-spouse. of course, that’s a long time away and I’m flexible, but that’s usually how I imagine things.
although I’m a bit uncomfortable with the idea of me working and my spouse staying at home. but like I said, long time away. lot of things can change by then</p>
<p>I would never stay home with kids. However, if I do end up having kids, I would consider working 3 days a week or working half days, if possible. But I don’t think we would worry about gender roles - whoever’s job it made more sense to leave/go part time would do so.</p>
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<p>you underestimate the diversity of today’s world. and plus, just because it’s modern doesn’t mean it’s better</p>
<p>I have very strong opinions on this topic. I would never even consider not working. I know that I won’t feel fulfilled if I don’t have a career. I already have career goals that are very important to me, and I’m putting a lot of effort into my education so that I can achieve those goals. The main reason why I’m working hard in high school and attending college in the future is so that I can join the workforce and have a successful career. I wouldn’t want to feel that my education and my college degree were all for nothing. Besides, when both parents work, they are greatly benefitting their children by providing for them financially. Less and less parents are making the decision to be unemployed by choice, and, soon, it will probably be the norm for both parents to work.</p>
<p>I would prefer my wife stay home, but she should work if she really wants to. So it’s all up to her.</p>
<p>I want a wife who works. This isnt the 14th century and educated and professional women are attractive.</p>
<p>I have the same opinion as bleach340 on this topic.</p>
<p>I would want her to do whatever she wants, but she’ll probably be someone with career goals and life aspirations. Passive and submissive isn’t really my type in friends or dating relationships.</p>
<p>What about a career that doesn’t bring in half as much money as your’s? Say, a kindergarten teacher or a nurse. </p>
<p>Would you prefer that she was “on your level”?</p>
<p>Yes, I’d prefer for her to GOML. If I was a guy/lesbian.</p>
<p>i’m a guy and if i got married, i would want my wife to work since I do not ever want kids so theres no point in her staying home.</p>
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<p>I don’t even want to get married until after college, so she’ll probably have already chosen a career, and I’m fine as long as we’re financially secure, if she was making more or less money than me I wouldn’t try to force her to do something else if she doesn’t want to.</p>
<p>If one partner chooses to stay home, that’s fine. Because it’s THEIR choice. You can’t make decisions for your partner.</p>
<p>(This is totally inapplicable to myself as I don’t plan on getting married or having children.)</p>
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Yeah, but you can pick your partner based on what they’d choose.</p>
<p>I don’t know that I’ll ever get married or have kids, but if I ever did, I would NOT want them to be alone during their initial years of their life. If there was any way possible, I’d want one of us to take a couple of years off (or both of us take turns) to be a stay at home parent at least for the first 4 years or so.</p>