<p>My D is applying to BS from a public school, and I feel compelled to add my two cents to a few of Perwinkle's observations. Namely:</p>
<p>[Private school teachers will write very descriptive recommendations for their students] with the implication that public school teachers may not and [Pre-preps are also in favor of their students applying to prep schools, and getting in]</p>
<p>How true! In my experience, this stems not from any malicious intent, but from ignorance and lack of resources.</p>
<p>My own experience: When I dropped off my D's recommendation forms, the counselor and principal were both too busy to see me, but the office clerk assured me that she would turn in the forms. I called the school the next day to confirm with the counselor that they had been received. She assured me that they had and that everything would be taken care of. A week later, I called back (to status her), asking if she had any questions or needed me to take care of the postage. She said, "Oh, my goodness. I will get right on that!" Mind you, we didn't get the notion to apply to BS until late November, so w/ the holidays, there wasn't too much time to waste. Three days later, she called me and asked what the forms were for... she had never seen these sorts of forms before. I was not surprised, I doubt anyone from that school ever went to BS. (Indeed, she was pronouncing Exeter as if it was EX-EATER and Groton as if it was GROW-TUN). I explained that they were boarding school recommendations... to some of the most prestigious schools in the U.S. I offered to bring in some money for postage, as I realize that the school has a limited amount of funds available for postage. The counselor said that that would speed up the process by at least a week or two. So I paid the school $40 for postage and brought in a ream of paper (for copying her transcripts), at their request.</p>
<p>Then, on January 15th, I get word that two of the recommendations were not mailed. The counselor states that Mrs. XXX didn't turn hers in. Strangely, this was my D's 7th grade teacher. I inquire why Mrs. XXX was filling out a rec at all, and the counselor informs me that she split the recs up between my D's 7th and 8th grade teachers. The teachers were overloaded and she didn't want them to have too much work. She said that she could see about getting it taken care of the next day... I tried to assure her as calmly (but firmly) as possible that it needed to be postmarked on the 15th at the latest. It was already 3 pm. Long story short, Mrs. XXX had left for the day, but teacher from current year was still at school and stayed late to write something up. She said she'd get it in the mail by the 4:30 pick-up. Hmmm... what could she come up w/ in about an hour? And she used her own stamp.</p>
<p>So was the counselor incompetent? I don't really think so. She's overworked. She's the only counselor in a school of 800 students, grades 6 - 12. </p>
<p>Was Mrs. XXX from 7th grade incompetent? She actually seemed like a lovely lady when I knew her. She taught 7 classes (no free period, to make extra money) and each class had 40 students. She was probably just very busy and BS apps were a back-burner sort of item.</p>
<p>My D has never attended a private school, so I'm not sure what they have to offer. I can only imagine that it's better than this.</p>