The title says it all, but how are all of you mentally preparing yourselves for all rejections and waitlists?
I’m a t t e m p t i n g to get excited over my district’s public highschool, but it’s not exactly working. I know I’m in a much better situation than most with a pretty good LPS as a backup (academics on par with some pretty decent private schools), but I know I would still feel horrid if I get in nowhere on M10.
We have an assembly about that highschool tomorrow. Maybe that’ll get me excited?
I’m going to the top 10 things to know about high school at my school (it’s a 6-12 school) and honestly my trying to get myself excited about high school here is working pretty well! I already know all the kids and teachers, and I’ll have a lot of opportunities for leadership positions because it’s a small school. I could probably continue being a part of Student Council, maybe join National Junior Honors Society. My friend and I were gonna start a model UN club or something. I was gonna try to get a mini library started at the school too. The only disadvantage is the lack of larger opportunities, you know? And rigorous classes.
My husband was supremely unhelpful and calculated the odds of rejection at all 12 BS our son applied to, assuming that admission was purely by lottery. That would be nice if true but we all know that few applicants have an exactly average chance at each school. He has some things going for him and some things going against him & the upshot is that who knows what the true odds are.
i’m more excited for M10 than nervous! i applied to 9 schools, and the chances of me not getting in anywhere is pretty slim.
but i just keep telling myself ‘everything happens for a reason’, so if i don’t get in at xyz school, than i’m telling myself it was mean to be. (kinda stupid, but it helps me.)
One of the things that makes it difficult is that our LPS is the pedagogical opposite of the schools my child applied to. While the schools my child applied to have eliminated AP classes, all the LPS has to offer bright and ambitious kids are classes taught to the tests - either regents or AP.
My thinking always has been “You do your best, whatever outcome results, you should be happy because you’ve done all you can”. Anyway, it’s mostly depends on the child anyway. My oldest went to a lowly-rated lps because I knew nothing about bs but still got admitted to Ivy League college on full need based scholarship.
The tendency, when teaching a course that culminates in a test not written by the instructor, is for the instructor to fashion the curriculum around the test.
I have observed that my child’s exams in such courses have the same format as a standardized tests (state or regents). I feel that it discourages real thought and deep understanding of a subject, and certainly curbs intellectual curiosity, because the intensive time management needed allows no deviation from the syllabus.
I want my child to be able to think, understand, make connections, and come to her own conclusions. Life for most of us is not a standardized test.
Furthermore, depending on where you are applying and what you end up majoring in, the AP exam scores just may not be worth college credit.
Brand new poster, but this thread spoke to me. Looking back on it, not the smartest idea, but DS only applied to one BS, aka the sniper approach. As I think about M10, I find myself thinking about how I will counsel and console him, in that not only do I think he applied to a VERY competitive school, but we are FA applicants as well. Other than being a great kid, he has no “hook.” The reason we did not apply to more is that, on paper, his LDS is excellent. It was sort of a whim thing when he brought BS up, because his dad went to a (different) BS. As time marched on, no pun intended, it became clear he ins’t flourishing in his high school, applying as a sophomore. I know it will all work out, but a nervous week for sure.
One of the things that helped me as a parent was to search through the previous year’s March 10th thread and read advice to the decisions/rejections and WL’s. Reading the comforting messages shared helped me prepare for the current year. It also gave me a chance to know some stories of the a few folks with kids who are now Seniors !
Well, I kept busy with clubs and other activities, and spent time with your friends and family, as after starting BS I knew i wasn’t get to see them as often, and if I hadn’t gotten in, I had a bunch of cool memories to look back on anyways. Definitely spent a ton of time on CC rereading old threads, although that may or may not have been helpful. Only 3 days to go!
yeah, same about the getting excited about lps part. It’s a good magnet school, but with >3000 kids and a very similar environment to my current school, I’m struggling a lot.
im so nervous. i applied to 2 schools last year and got waitlisted at both and this year i’m applying again as an incoming 10th grader for 4 schools. Getting waitlisted sucks, but if you think about it from a positive perspective, everything happens for a reason and you can still start to get excited about being able to go to the same high school as your friends and get excited about what you can do for whatever high school you end up going to
@PhotographerMom , our local public school is really strong, academically and athletically. DS didn’t want to apply to other schools and will continue to go there if he gets rejected at the two schools he chose.
I was actually impressed with his thought process. He chose the two schools based on how they would strengthen his high school career if you will.
Hoping for the best. Planning for the worst. The worst is attending our local public school which is still pretty good. On the bright side, my child’s classmates will be from the same neighborhood. Easily to arrange for carpooling. Our high school counselor is asking us to think of the benefit of learning from the process which is four years sooner than college to prepare our child. Of course, it’s hard not to worry.
FYI…DS was waitlisted at one of his top choices. Had a nice conversation with AO who is also a coach for team(s) DS participates in…regarding Corona virus and waitlist…he said this year in talking with other BS AO no one seems to know how much of an impact the virus will have on who enrolls but all schools he spoke to are anticipating a higher rate of movement off the waitlist when compared to past years. Apologies for being long winded in conveying to the group that waitlist news is not what you want today but be prepared that you may be moved off that list fairly quickly this year. Good luck to all.
