<p>my friend Lingting is really pretty. very time we go to a chinese restaurant or whatever people always stare at her and always tell her mom what a pretty girl she is. she is also very into school and gets stellar grades. but she is not the type that flirts with guys/the easy type. i am a little jealous of her myself. but no guys seem to be really interested in her. why do you think this is?</p>
<p>Maybe they think she's taken or are turned off by her not being outgoing and flirty. There are unattractive people that can get hooked up more often just because of their personality I guess.</p>
<p>^^^ agreed</p>
<p>Guys like girls with confidence/outgoing, fun personalities. Maybe that's not the vibe that your friend is giving off.</p>
<p>usna is right. If you pay attention closely, you'll see that many girls that are attractive are so due to an appealing personality. Physical features play a part but confidence can help loads. If she flirted more guys would prob want to get in her pants --if she looks as good as you say she does.</p>
<p>Yeah. Those ugly girls who keep getting boyfriends and I'm sitting here like @_@?</p>
<p>If she's really hott, which she sounds like she is, and really smart, the boys are probably intimidated. Like they can't get with a girl THAT good. That may be why all these fat ugly chicks get boyfriends and I don't! If she went up to a boy, his confidence maybe rise and voila. You got a lot of wusses at your school. So if she wants a boyfriend (I don't know if she does since YOU'RE talking), tell her to go up to a boy.</p>
<p>Maybe I'll do that when I feel like having a bf. :D</p>
<p>i have to say i feel the same way except that i'm a guy. </p>
<p>i think, for me at least, it's because we're not that open and social. also, we don't hang with a more social group and meet people that often.</p>
<p>i used to get girls saying i was cute and all when i was a kid and up till 10th grade even. But now, that doesn't happen anymore. It's not that i got ugly, but it's just that all the girls are more mature and you gotta do your share of the effort to be friendly and open. heh</p>
<p>Do guys actually like it when a girl makes the first move? I'm assuming since many guys get intimidated by girls, they want girls to make a move for them, however, what are the "right" or confident things to say to a guy when you are trying to pursure him that will spark up a conversation?</p>
<p>girls don't make moves, they make you think with their SIGNS!</p>
<p>if the girls hot then guys like it</p>
<p>I second runawaywithme's question. :o</p>
<p>jagman0730 is totally right, girls don't make moves they give obvious signs. Guys are just stupid, I should know I'm one of them.</p>
<p>Yes, and they make you stew with their words afterwards.</p>
<p>Yeah, I talk to this one girl who I might get to go out with soon (yay me!) and we talk all the time. She will say one thing that obviously means I love talking to you and want to hang out and then there will be something else saying she is busy, all in the same conversation. It can all be very confusing sometimes.</p>
<p>Here's a related question for guys: </p>
<p>Are guys REALLY and TRULY intimidated by successful girls who know their stuff about school/music/movies/books/whatever? </p>
<p>One guy said he felt awkward around me because he was used to being around girls who were impressed when he name dropped an author or an independent movie title but when he did that around me, I would be familiar with it and want to talk to him about it. Basically he said that he didn't like me as much because I wasn't as easily impressed as other girls were when he talked about art or music or whatever. It just seems like all the guys I like tend to date less intelligent girls.</p>
<p>Nope I personally love successful girls. What intelligent male in their right minds wouldn't want to be with someone as smart or smater than them. I know for one that I go off on tangent conversations that are only fun when I am with girls who can get them, sometimes even better than I can :).</p>
<p>No. Contrary to what many <em>girls</em> say, guys don't find intelligent girls less attractive. Intelligence is always an asset and never a turn-off</p>
<p>HOWEVER, there is a bigggg difference between intelligence and grandiosity- having the former can often lead to the latter</p>
<p>No no no, when a girl is smarter than a guy it can be a real big turn-off for the guy. I know plenty of guys, whether they admit it or not that would feel awkward like QuickLikeCat said around more successful girls.</p>