<p>alright, i sent it.
i dont think essays should have time limits…im too much of a perfection to be able to chug out an essay quickly lol.
I am SO nervous about what she’s gonna say but I tried my best and I submitted as soon as I could. </p>
<p>I hate that I’ve received messages calling me entitled and bratty because honestly, that’s not my intention at all. Perhaps I am not mentally strong enough to deal with the work-load I just got through during my finals period. I have had star students at my university tell me that my finals load is crazy–however, i thought i was invincible. After 8 days with less than 12 hours of sleep in total, my judgement was not where it should be ( I am still quite sleep deprived however so if im rambling im sorry).
I was able to intensely study for my quantitative courses but when it came to writing 40 pages in 5 days (I had five days because my other finals took up all of the first week), my brain just shut down. Upon realizing that it would be impossible for me to get 2 essays done in 5 days, i asked for an extension on one of them. it then took me ALL five days to write one essay and then i just wrote this other one in three days. looking back, i would love to blame what is happening on my procrastination but there wasnt a period where I took a break—i moved from one assignment to the other with very little eating and sleeping inbetween. I hate to say it but this finals period has taught me that I actually have a limit—my ego is shattered.</p>
<p>I don’t think you are entitled or bratty. I do, however, think you need to work on time management. It’s a fact of college life that you will have more than one project going at a time. So the five days you devoted exclusively to the other essay was too much. You should have split time between them and not left this one to literally the last hour (you were planning to do that even with a midnight deadline rather than the 5 pm deadline). </p>
<p>Time management is an important skill and can take time to develop. Depending on your career, it can make or break you. As a nurse, time management is critical. Believe me, it took me a while to master, as my family could attest when they expected me home by 7:15 every night but often didn’t see me until 8:30 because I was still at work, charting the stuff written on scraps of paper that I didn’t have time to do at the time. Eventually I got better, but it was a huge struggle for me.</p>
<p>Glad it’s behind you and you can sleeeeeep…:)</p>
<p>I don’t think you’re entitled or bratty either. I do think that you made a big assumption with her regarding the time limit of the extension. I think you didn’t want to confront it, and so you wound up shooting yourself in the foot by assuming Mon midnight was fine, then having her clarify Mon 5 pm, and then missing that deadline without giving her a heads-up. And you went on CC several times during the day when you were under the gun.<br>
But I think you’ve learned a few lessons. Good luck.</p>
<p>I’m sorry this happened to you ,and hope it gets resolved. Now you know that you have to get the time of day when you get deadlines. This is important in life as well. You may have a deadline of midnight on paper, but people close up shop as do businesses, so you cannot wait until the stroke of midnight for things. Things like insurance and options that technically have until 11:59PM as a deadline, really have a much earlier one, when things have to be processed and the businesses close at 5PM. It’s not just a matter of pushing the button to submit for some things in life, and you have hopefully learned this. My son recently missed a midnight deadline because he was sitting there with his finger in his mouth realizing that no one was there to do anything for him even as early as late Friday afternoon to meet that deadline, and he has all sorts of penalities now. You can’t process things beyond a certain time even though you can zap the payment and materials to a place and if them’s the laws, you are up the creek. Those deadlines need to be given a healthy swath or you can pay dearly. </p>
<p>Again, I hope you can make some headway with the prof. Lots of apologies from you are in order. You can also thank the prof for teaching you a valuable less. I hope the pay for it isn’t so very steep, and that some leeway is given to you. I also hope you learned from this. Good luck.</p>
<p>"My first reaction was “WHOAAAA!!! Wow, why is she just telling me this on the day the paper is due??”</p>
<p>Just think how blindsided she felt when she went to open her email at 5 pm and didn’t even see any explanation from you. It’s unfair to dis her for this when she blew off her deadline completely.</p>
<p>Something else to consider: Your prof has deadlines, too. Finals were last week? Grades are probably due today, and the registrar is going to be breathing down her neck if they’re not in by the appointed hour. You submit a paper at midnight and you leave her no time to grade it. </p>
<p>Another lesson here might be to consider what pressures your requests place on others.</p>
<p>when was paper assigned? the week it was due?</p>
<p>my daughter had a fifteen page paper due end of term, she was assigned beginning of term, she whined about doing it,the week it was due…too bad for her i had no sympathy</p>
<p>When one of my kids did have a medical issue, a request was made to take an incomplete in the course. The student then had a specified amount of time after the term to complete the course. These arrangements were made through the Dean of Students with doctors verifications of the medical issue and hospitalization required.</p>
<p>Hopefully you won’t have a medical issue in future terms, but if you do, think about this option.</p>
<p>Re: deadlines…you say essays should not have deadlines? Are you serious? Do you expect the professor to have open ended receipt of these? </p>
<p>Your situation here involved medical issues…and really the dean of students and your advisor would have been able to help you.</p>
<p>Get used to deadlines…you are going to see them for the rest of your life!</p>
<p>I’ve been thinking about what you said about perfection, procrastination, and that it is too much pressure to write papers to a deadline…I wonder if you are seeing or would consider seeing a counselor so as to better understand and manage these feelings, which seem to pose significant obstacles to your progress.</p>
<p>Giving yourself internal deadlines would be a useful skill, too. Because there is always something that happens – a computer goes on the fritz, a printer dies, there’s a fire drill and you’re evacuated from your building for a few hours, a family member has a crisis you need to deal with … etc. So in thinking through deadlines, if the deadline is (say) Friday at 5 pm, make an internal deadline that you’ll be ready to push “send” by Thursday at 5 pm or whatever. Even in the case in which you requested the extension to “Sunday or Monday,” you should have given yourself an internal deadline of Sun at 5 pm so that way when you got clarification, you could have immediately sent over the essay.</p>
<p>Every year on CC you see kids submitting college apps at 11:59 pm, which is <em>insane.</em> I don’t know how people can live like that. Don’t be one of those!</p>
<p>Awesome. Congratulations, strongbeans. These experiences are actually great ones! I’ll bet you got some good stuff out of it that will serve you well in the future.</p>