<p>Hello,
I recently got an extension on my final essay because Ive been incredibly sick for the past few weeks. I asked her on Thursday if I can turn it in on Sunday or Monday and she agreed without specifying when...so I assumed Monday (today) by the end of the day would be fine. BUT she just emailed me this Monday morning and was surprised to not see my paper in her inbox
her tone then turned semi-threatening as she said that I must have it to her by 5pm today or shell reduce my grade by 50%.
My first reaction was WHOAAAA!!!! Wow, why is she just telling me this on the day the paper is due??
Surely I can throw something together by 5pm (its a 20 page paper) but I had scheduled to edit from 6pm to 11pm tonight
I really dont know what to do. How do I handle this situation? Do I just not respond to her email and then turn it in when I can?</p>
<p>You contacted her four days ago about turning it in on Sunday or Monday.
You thought by the end of today would be fine, prof expects it at 5pm.( which is standard)</p>
<p>I think your expectation of having until midnight to finish a paper that was already over due is unrealistic & if I were your prof I would feel like you were taking advantage of the situation.</p>
<p>Profs are not obligated to extend deadlines.</p>
<p>When you usually have a deadline is it until class that day, end of school day or end of physical day?</p>
<p>Apparently the professor felt Sunday or Monday meant first thing Monday morning, not 11:59 on Monday night. You should turn it in by 5:00 PM because otherwise you will get 50% taken off.</p>
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<p>Going forward, this could be a lesson in the value of clarifying these kinds of important details rather than assuming. </p>
<p>If I were you, I’d get busy. And I would turn it in by 5:00 pm.</p>
<p>I would try something like… “I’m sorry, I misunderstood the deadline we had discussed. I have been really sick, so maybe I was a little woozy when we talked about it. I was planning to finish my final proofreading this evening and get it to you by midnight, is it okay if I do that? I could get it to you by 5 pm, but I would like a few more hours if possible in order to give this my best effort. Thank you!”. Do not for ONE SECOND imply in any way that this is a change on her part, she did not understand, she is screwing you, etc. GROVEL.</p>
<p>For her class, papers are usually due at midnight.
My expectations matched what usually happens in class.
Also, I would have had no problem with the 5pm deadline IF she would have told me at the time I asked for the extension…I really just dont understand why she sent that email the day of the deadline.
And sorry, my mistake, I actually asked her on tuesday. I had another 20 page paper due on Thursday (the same day as this one) and it was very hard for me to juggle doing both while ill. When I asked her for the extension, I sent her an outline of the essay (it was 7 pages) and a copy of my doctors note.
I didnt even get started on her paper until this Saturday (had to move out of my dorm on friday and spent 5 days running around DC collecting info for my other final paper)</p>
<p>i know the best thing to do right now, is to just shut up and write but that email just completely threw me off guard. I need to something to help me refocus and calm down</p>
<p>Get off CC and start writing the paper. Get it done by 5 p.m. Good luck.</p>
<p>Yeah, I don’t know why you are wasting time in CC trying to shore up your position when you really should be working on this paper. She gave you a pretty good extension. You should have clarified before you ever left the class that day what the deadline was, regardless of past positions. You can’t necessarily extrapolate prior due times onto an extension which she didn’t even have to grant.</p>
<p>Good luck, I hope it turns out okay.</p>
<p>Thank you. I just needed a place to vent and to add some perspective to this situation.
back to work!!!</p>
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<p>You’ve learned a very important lesson about assuming!! Don’t do it - if you didn’t have a specific clarification in writing, make sure you get that clarification. </p>
<p>And there’s nothing wrong with making your request several ways. Send an email AND call. I love email too, but sometimes it’s best to make a call and leave a voicemail. That documents that as of Thursday, you were asking about this.</p>
<p>Wow, Ive been working straight through for the past 4 hours. This isn’t getting done by 5…sigh, I really dont know what to do.
why am i such a slow writer? 
I seriously feel like a failure.</p>
<p>Posting on CC isn’t going to help. Back to work.</p>
<p>okay okay lol</p>
<p>Well… since you didn’t make an attempt to email her earlier, I would wait until a little before 5 pm (which it might be now where you are). Then email her again… tell you you have been working diligently all weekend (assuming it is true) and all day today, but you are not comfortable that it is ready to turn in. Tell her you will send it to her by midnight, and that you are very, very sorry it is late. Be abject, apologetic. Maybe she will take pity on you and not dock you 50%…</p>
<p>I didnt email her
I honestly dont know what to say…im having a panic attack right now.
Im just going to continue writing and then send it to her before 12am.</p>
<p>Think. Why would it be preferable to just miss the deadline versus at least email her and try to get some mercy?</p>
<p>because i honestly dont know if mercy will be granted.
I don’t feel like making another excuse. She only checks her email in the morning and I just feel like emailing her again without having a final paper attached to it would be pointless.
The only I could say is that I had planned to finish my essay by 11:59pm and I am extremely extremely sorry for the misunderstanding regarding submission time. However, I feel like I can write this when I submit my final paper.</p>
<p>You don’t know when she checks email but she won’t grant you mercy. She specifically said Mon at 5 pm. She has that documented. It seems that you like to procrastinate and avoid confronting unpleasant things? (We all do, we are human.)</p>
<p>“It seems that you like to procrastinate and avoid confronting unpleasant things?”</p>
<p>Yes, very true I admit. It’s so bad but I think this whole situation is teaching me very very very valuable lessons.
I also know that this situation is entirely my fault and could have been easily avoided. I have just been so burnt out this finals period. It’s been mentally and physically draining and I cant wait to get some rest</p>