Next Sat is my first/last prom/dance ever, as I am a senior. I never thought I would go because I am more reserved and quiet, but I got caught up in the moment and asked someone (a sophomore, but really cute and knows how to dance) to go. Well, it would be a good experience, I thought.
It’s actually super stressful fodsjdsoifsd. College decisions do not even compare.
I don’t know even how to dance. The last time I danced my heart out was when I was like, 5?
Any general tips please? Like, going to a restaurant, any clothing advice, post-prom party (which I really don’t want to go to and probably won’t unless she wants to).
Good for you! This is a good thing you are doing...going a little out of your comfort zone...you will want to do that to make friends in college.
Do you have friends/acquaintances that are going? Does she? Do pre-prom activities with them.
Often the families get together to take photos…if you can possibly get in a group with other people doing the same thing that will be good.
Ask someone on the prom committee or student council about the dress code…around here it is black tuxes for the guys, with bow ties/cummerbunds that match the girl (or at least boutonniere (flower that you pin on lapel) that matches the girls dress.
You should buy a corsage for her/matching boutonniere for her…
Dont’ worry about dancing… just see what others are doing and do your best.
Transportation can be you driving her (but figure that out).
Pre-prom…does your prom include food? Do you need to go to a restaurant.
Post-prom party…is that school supported or just some party? Her parents may not be keen if it isn’t school run.
Yes me and another friend have talked about going in a group, but haven’t decided. She probably has friends going, but it’s mostly upperclassmen and she’s underclassman.
Actually I think I’ll go in a black tux with a matching tie or bow tie (but I personally don’t like how a bow tie looks)
Can I just get a corsage for her with no boutonniere?
Everyone else will probably be wearing a bow tie…look on FB for last years prom photos to see what the guys wear.
You can get a corsage just for her.
You and your friend should definitely go in a group…it will make it easier. This is your prom, so go with your friend (as opposed to hers) if you can. She will have her chance when she is older.
Also it will be less akward if you go to dinner in a group.
No party is fine…just let her (and her parents) know your plan.
Matching boutonierres always look nice! And I’ve seen guys wear both ties and bow-ties. Sometimes people get together and rent limos, but this can be expensive.
When my boyfriend and I went to prom, he wore a black jacket with white shirt, vest, and bow tie. The bow tie kind of blended in, making it a little less prominent than if it had been a contrasting color. Maybe that’s up your alley? I thought the look was pretty sharp.
Learn how to hide “it” because trust me, you’re gonna get “danced on” by girls you’ve never even talked to in your high school career… It’s prom. Just putting it out there haha
@bopper so I screwed up with the group planning thing (my fault completely), and now I have to go with her alone most likely. Which is fine. I just have to put more work into keeping the talking going for a few hours. No problem I got this.
@bopper Haha nvm, one of my friends asked his gf late, so I got them to go with us.
Another thing. Do I absolutely must get a tux? I get that it’s the norm, but would it be ridiculous to go in a suit that’s the same color (or close) as her dress? My fashion sense is pretty bad so…
@bopper Went pretty well! Except the dancing. Slow dance was fine, but the free styles were a mess haha. Talking wasn’t much of an issue. There were some quiet moments but I didn’t feel that they were awkward. She did not get a boutonniere for some reason (I didn’t ask for one either). I did get her a corsage though. After prom we went hunting for snacks before settling on some drinks because all the shops were closed. Took her home at 12. It was a good experiences but I am glad I did it as a one-time thing.
