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since you mentioned your son as a recipient of the unwanted emails earlier in this thread I assumed he was at least one of the disgruntled/upset non-finalists for whom you speak. If he is not, then just replace him in the sentence with the teens you do know who are disgruntled/upset. I was not making assumptions or judgments but merely responding to your claims about the upset QB non-finalists.</p>
<p>In post #18 I was not speaking with authority about anything at all but responding to your escalating level of vitriol and accusation toward Questbridge with the suggestion that perhaps it would be more constructive to contact Questbridge than to continue to vent here. In previous posts I quoted Questbridge directly on the subject the OP raised.
From my POV this is not a contest to see who knows more about Questbridge or who can win an argument but an effort to respond to concerns raised by OP and then you. You seem to be simply interested in being “right” rather than moving toward some more helpful perspective or approach. </p>
<p>As far as not having encouraging or positive advice here is what I said to @maryleanne: <<i know=“” it=“” must=“” have=“” been=“” a=“” disconcerting=“” email=“” from=“” rice=“” if=“” you=“” weren’t=“” happy=“” with=“” the=“” quality=“” of=“” your=“” qb=“” app.=“”>> <<you are=“” totally=“” in=“” control=“” of=“” the=“” process=“” and=“” what=“” you=“” submit=“” where!=“”>> << I understand that it is frustrating for non-finalists who may not be confident in the quality of their applications to know that they are “available” to colleges>>
and here’s a terribly judgmental and unhelpful idea I gave you: <<@happykidsmom, rather than steer deserving students away from the opportunities QB offers, you could give your feedback to QB about your reaction to this particular policy. Perhaps, suggest that they offer an ‘opt out’ clause for students who don’t want their applications made <em>available</em> to QB colleges. Since it’s something they all agree to when they submit the app, I’m sure it wouldn’t be hard to just make it a box you check (or not).>> I can see how you would find that passive-aggressive…???</you></i></p><i know=“” it=“” must=“” have=“” been=“” a=“” disconcerting=“” email=“” from=“” rice=“” if=“” you=“” weren’t=“” happy=“” with=“” the=“” quality=“” of=“” your=“” qb=“” app.=“”>
<p>Frankly, I don’t think that you would like anything I say unless I’m agreeing with you. In my family we work really hard to live in the solution rather than the problem and that is all I’ve tried to offer in this thread.
@happykidsmom, your level of anger and attack toward both me and Questbridge is beyond what I feel comfortable with so I’m going to exit from this discussion now. </p>
<p>I will leave it to any readers of this thread to decide whether they find any of my posts “judgmental”, and my attitude “truly unhelpful”.</p>
<p>I hope the OP isn’t too distressed by the direction this thread has taken. I’m sure it’s not pleasant to see adults behaving this way and we haven’t set a very good example. I apologize to the OP for my role in that and hope that the rest of her college admissions process goes swimmingly!</p>
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