<p>Is it ok to send recommendations to more than one sorority? My D has an idea of which sororities she will be interested in but of course she won't know which one is the right fit until rush. We know several people who can provide recommendations for her for different houses, but we wondered whether it's in bad taste to send recommendations to more than one house? What's the etiquette on that?</p>
<p>Well, (NPC) sororities only accept recs from their own members. I…e., an Alpha Phi only writes a rec for Alpha Phi, a Delta Gamma only writes a rec for Delta Gamma, etc. If possible, your D should try to get recs for every chapter on campus, especially if the school is known for having a more competitive sorority recruitment. Good luck to her! :)</p>
<p>No, it’s not in bad taste at all to send recs to multiple sororities. In fact, it’s the smart thing to do. You should send recs to every sorority on campus if you can. It’s impossible to anticipate how rush will shake out and it’s best to have all your bases covered.</p>
<p>There’s absolutely no problem with having a DG alum write a rec to DG, a Kappa alum write a rec to Kappa, and so forth. The other houses won’t know; they are just concerned with the recs they get. The importance of the rec, though, depends on campus – from a “hi, notice me” to an integral part of the process.</p>
<p>Perfect–that’s just what we needed to know. I love CC!</p>
<p>At U Texas, it is not at all unusual for girls to have multiple letters of rec sent to multiple houses.</p>
<p>At competitive schools, multiple recs are the norm. If you can’t immediately find people from all the chapters within your circle of friends then have your D contact the local panhel group for any sorority that she is currently lacking. She will probably have an interview. Make sure that she send a thank-you note, etc. </p>
<p>Recruitment has changed a lot from the time that you might have gone through recruitment, so a few visits to greek chat dot com wouldn’t hurt (several CC parents are on there).</p>
<p>Even if your D says she is not interested in a sorority, if you know alumni please have them send recommendation letters. She may change her mind and will be glad for the rec.</p>
<p>If things haven’t changed, I think having a rec will get her invited to a 2nd party (at least at certain campuses). It will give her a chance to get to know the sorority better. </p>
<p>You never know what house you will like until you go through recruitment. Be very open minded during rush and it will be a more positive experience.</p>
<p>Mizzbee - I’ve never hears of contacting the local alum group. I’ve only heard of soliciting recs from family / friends. (“does anyone know a Pi Phi?” type of thing). My H treats a lot of college bound girls in his medical practice and i’ve written recs for some of them!</p>
<p>I used to get contacted through my alumni group often, especially when there was a PNM who was a first-generation collge student. I go out to meet her at a lunch and interview her much like an alumni interview. As you know, at some schools recs are required just to get though the first round. I do think that contacting the alumni group should be done only after a PNM has exhausted friends and family.
In my particular town, I have written a ton, just because we have such a low percentage of college graduates in our town. I also write several for the young ladies from my original hometown. Sometimes, they don’t even know that I have written one, and a few times I have written them for girls that had no intention of going through recruitment, but change their mind when a sorority asks them for lunch, etc based on the rec.</p>
<p>Thanks everyone, these recommendations are very helpful.</p>