<p>I don't want to ignite another seven page long event, but did want to say thanks to those who responded to my thread from last week. </p>
<p>Blossom, if you're lurking, I'm especially grateful for your post, because it gave me a blueprint of what my position should be, and it "fits" my parenting style. More than anything, I needed information and a very specific example of what to do, and that's what your post answered. What you outlined is the position I've decided to take on this and any future such matters, and I believe my daughter will be happier for it too. </p>
<p>Kirmum, if you're around, I also appreciate very much your point of view. I disagreed with almost everything you posted, which is why I am still thinking about everything you said. Again, I've never learned anything from anyone who agreed with me 100% of the time. A situation like this - even if it holds no air except in my fearful parental mind - desperately requires opposing viewpoints. That's also the benefit of receiving feedback in an anonymous forum - you weren't responding through the lens of seeing me at the next social function or family event, and therefore could post without concern of future fallout!</p>
<p>I've decided that the segue to adulthood is an iterative process, not a straight shot. It's hard to figure out what you're supposed to be doing - or not doing - when they're growing at constantly changing rates. I'm going keep my radar tuned, but watching from a greater distance, and be available to respond with assistance if asked, or if the situation warrants. </p>
<p>Thanks again to everyone who took the time to offer their thoughts; all were carefully considered, read more than once, and very much appreciated.</p>