It is totally acceptable on this website to ask any question you want, as long as it doesn’t violate the Terms of Service. It is NOT OK to ridicule someone for asking the question. Please read the Terms of Service to refresh your memory about the behavior we expect.
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Same here. I live in the South where that may be more expected but have friends all over the country who would consider it when making fashion decisions. I agree it is probably a consideration only by women and most men won’t “get it”.
When I’m at the coast or in FL, the wearing white rules are relaxed. As are most all fashion choices.
ETA: Unless I’m in Savannah or Charleston. No relaxing of the fashion rules there! Haha
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I remember going to a college football game when I was young–must’ve been around 10. And everyone had to dress up! Dresses and suits. To sit on a wooden bleacher in the heat. But drinking was rampant and lots of people brought liquor into the stadium. This was memorable to me because the frat guys seated behind us accidentally poured beer on our seats and my dad grabbed one guy’s London Fog jacket (a big deal back then)to soak it up and then sat on it. Nary a peep and they all sobered up pretty quick. My mom felt bad but I can assure you my dad did not!
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We dressed for football games when I was in college. Some people still do, but it’s a tradition for some students (mainly Greek). Not suits but dress shirts, tie, blazer and dresses for girls. SEC school.
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This sounds like the UT games in Austin when I was in college! I went to my first football game soon after school started, and I was so excited. Football is huge there, and such a spectacle. I went with my long term boyfriend, a year older than I. He was in a fraternity and sat with his pledge brothers and all of their dates (most were in sororities). I had NO IDEA that the Greek community dressed really nice for football games. I was extremely casual, wearing what I figured was standard football game attire. Boy did I ever get that one wrong. And honestly, I felt extremely uncomfortable and not just a little peeved that my bf hadn’t warned me!
Maybe a therapist would say I have “issues” about fitting in with respect to dress codes! 
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I got pretty dressed up for UT games and I wasn’t even in a sorority.
I was completely clueless. But not after that first game!
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Yes, life would be so much more fulfilling if we all wore shapeless potato sacks. /sarcasm off.
BTW, “fashion industry” has nothing to do with those “no white after X” customs.
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As women, we know we don’t have the sizing men have, haven’t in decades. I have 3 daughters, 2 sons, my daughters know what brand run big or small (now that they are all young adults). I still shop more for the men in my family way more than the women (who are way more fashion forward than myself). It is what it is, more rules for women, sizing issues for women, we live our lives and it’s fine, even if it’s annoying.
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For the record I never said the fashion industry was responsible.
I never said you should wear shapeless potato sacks.
Simply commenting on the arbitrary sizing system that I would find annoying if it applied to me.
No room for levity???
Never said you were not aware of the arbitrary sizing system. Glad you’re OK with it. It would annoy the heck out of me if I had to deal with it. That’s all I’m saying, no snark implied.
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I think this thread is ready to be closed down, correct? I think OP has received answers to her original post.
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^^ I think this is the point of the pushback that’s been received - nothing to do with fashion industry, arbitrary rules societal rules, etc. CC is a welcoming community that allows all sorts of questions without the need to justify them to others (as I understand it).
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So the wedding was beautiful and all had a good time. The house we rented was large, lovely, and well located, and lived up to the airbnb photos. The bride, who I’ve known all her life, was stunning, groom was dashing, and Mom and Dad of the bride (friends since Jr. High) were very elegant in black. The only complaint, and one I’m going to have to address for our Ds wedding, is that the band was very loud in a venue that was not huge. Fine for the dancing hours, but not great during the sit down dinner while we ate and tried to converse. D has also hired a band with some brass, so we will have to consider which music is played during dinner.
No one in my party (6 of us) besides me wore white at any time. As we went about our business in the beach community, out to dinner, sunsets at the beach, etc., I completely forgot to notice if anyone else did.
Thanks to those of you who gave your kind input.
ETA: It was a mistake to address my post to you @MADad, as you made your disdain for this thread quite clear. My apologies, I didn’t intend to reply to your post.
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Sounds lovely!
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I’m so glad you enjoyed your trip!
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Nrdsb4 - sounds like a delightful wedding! Glad you enjoyed!!
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