Random assignment for second year?

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<p>I have two problems that I need advice with. It would be nice if any one could address either one. Thanks!</p>

<h1>1 - Random roommate for second year</h1>

<p>So I'm currently a freshman in college and thinking about what I should do about my living situation for next year. Will I have a good change of finding good roommates if I do random? After all, everyone usually has somebody to dorm with in their second year. I have yet to meet someone who does random again; most of the time, its somebody that people thought were weird or didn't like. </p>

<h1>2 - Making new friends, keep the old?</h1>

<p>Recently, I've had some problems with my friends and I realized a bit late that maybe they weren't actually the type of friends for me. As much as I might have enjoyed hanging out with them, I just feel like I'm not that important to them. I feel like they just feel obligated to ask me to hang out because I don't really have anybody else or because they still have that high school mentality where they don't want to eat alone. There are many times where I feel like they've used me and lied to me; I always just let it go because I had no one else to turn to and because I've known them for a LONG time. What I really want is to try moving forward though. I want to change myself; I've always been the listener and the background type of person, but I want to try becoming more social. I joined a few clubs, but I don't really feel like I belong there either. Everybody's made their core group of friends by now, but I don't have one anymore. I don't really know any other ways to get involved...</p>

<p>At the moment, I have already submitted my roommate preferences and planned on dorming with two friends from the group I talked about in the previous paragraph, but now I am reconsidering. I know that they wouldn't be horrible roommates or anything, but I just feel like I don't want to be a part of that group anymore because of what had happened. Should I just stick with them or take a chance with random people?</p>

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<p>Parent here. I’d take your chances and go for a random roommate next year. My daughter and her roommate from freshman year decided they didn’t want to room together sophomore year. She was randomly assigned three suite mates. It has actually worked out very well for her. I don’t think it’s that unusual to discover that a group of friends might not be right for you. Don’t assume that everyone has already made their core group of friends. I’m sure you can find some new friends who you are more comfortable with. Don’t give up.</p>

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<p>I know how you feel. I’ve been hanging with a group of guys since school started, but lately I feel like I don’t fit in with them, and they are already rooming together(not that I would want to room with them anyway). I like to go out and party on weekends and they just ball and play madden all week long. I mean, i like that stuff too, but they’re completely strait edge and can be kind of boring.</p>

<p>I was thinking of getting a single dorm for sophmore year if I can’t find someone to room with, and if I dont get the single i may just get a random double. A random double could be a good way to meet someone new, as long as you don’t get a wierdo.</p>