<p>Mom2 that’s not correct. We don’t represent ourselves as living at that address. There are no state of Florida income taxes, so there’s no need for us to declare where in Florida we live or for how long. Also, we haven’t lived 12 months per year in Mexico and this is one of the many reasons we have kept the house as a vacation rental. We have returned over summers and Nov & Dec. That’s 5 months per year which is plenty to maintain our US residency. Guys, I did this **** for a living. Give me a break. </p>
<p>It all doesn’t matter for ths son. He is independent for both residency and financial aid purposes. </p>
<p>SMA, any consideration of a Florida public university within commuting distance of grandparents? Seems like this would be the easiest thing to do.</p>
<p>Thank you. Yes, that’s a possibility under consideration. </p>
<p>The good thing about those public universities is that there is a huge variety of courses.</p>
<p>You might want to check if the schools(s) offer degrees in general studies. Some schools do. This allows a student to take a variety of courses. For a student like this who seems completely undecided, it might give him the freedom to explore courses of interest to him…and that could take some of the “edge” off.</p>
<p>Ok. I am on doorbell duty so apologies for typos.</p>
<p>Regardless of why or what your kid decides to do now, if I were in this situation, I would want one of mine to have these things in hand before making ANY plans:</p>
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<li><p>Written documentation from Pomona (dated now) outlining his current enrollment status, eligibility to return (including when and under what circumstances), and financial aid award;</p></li>
<li><p>Written documentation from Questbridge (dated now) outlining how much financial aid eligibility remains - including under what terms - and to which institutions it will be disbursed, as well as any resources/supports available (advisor? Gap funding? Whatever);</p></li>
<li><p>Written documentation from an academic advisor at Pomona (dated now) outlining the conditions he would be as a returning student and what degree requirements (with estimated degree completion time) remain - e.g. If he returned it would be as a second-semester sophomore with academic probation (or whatever) and the on-campus housing requirement would be waived.</p></li>
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<p>I don’t know how he can make any plans without these documents.</p>
<p>3kids, brilliant game plan. </p>
<p>" His struggle in class as he describes it was this - he’d have classes where he’d be assigned to read something (usually a book) and write a page analyzing his thoughts about it to be ready to discuss in class. Easy enough. He’d do this until he slept through the class, then he’d be one page and book behind. "</p>
<p>This makes no sense. He reads the book, he writes the page, then he slept through class. How is he one page and one book behind now? He isn’t. He’s still done the work. And so that’s not an accurate or honest description of what was going on.</p>
<p>He would be behind the book and page assigned the day he missed. </p>
<p>He isn’t “behind” an assignment that was given that day unless he also took no responsibility to contact another student or the prof/TA to find out about missed assignments. Our middle and high school expect students to take this initiative when they miss class. Also, many college profs will hand out a detailed curriculum on the first day with readings and assignments for the semester. </p>
<p>Obviously he fell behind, mathy one. Does it really matter? </p>
<p>Well, then if that were the case, you’re right. But I’m not sure he’s trying to prove to us how responsible he was. That ship has sailed. What would be his motive for making that part up?</p>
<p>I think it’s all believable, but I agree with 3kids304, all of this conversation is useless until the student gets a clear picture of exactly where he stands with Pomona in terms of his transcript and what is on it and Questbridge in terms of future funding. Without that he’s a financially responsible adult in the eyes of any future college and his transcript will go along with him. There is at least 6 or 7 years between what this young man was and did at 17 or 18 and where he is today. It’s a whole new ballgame…</p>
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<p>This is a sign he wasn’t up for the work at Pomona. Maybe after he got past intro classes, he fell apart on academics. Living at home won’t help that…</p>
<p>The kid fell behind. He procrastinated. The mechanic of the procrastination aren’t relevant. The motivation is. Depressed? Anxious? Avoidant? Low self esteem? Bullied by another student? Undiagnosed learning disability? Other trauma not revealed here? Laziness? Fear of failure? Fear of success? That’s what is needed to be understood. </p>
<p>He got As in his afternoon classes, intparent. </p>
<p>Does he have a sleep disorder?</p>
<p>Interesting question. I also have the same issue. Might be a touch of insomnia. He has a tendency to get immersed in whatever it is and not fall asleep till he can’t stay up anymore. </p>
<p>Then he needs to be on a regular d aylight schedule. My friend is bipolar and her doctor requires that she keep a regular 9-5 type schedule. No working a swing or late shift, no sleeping to noon on her day off. You said he sets an alarm to get up on Japanese time to play games. Stop it. Or admit that he can’t take classes or work in the mornings, and that’s going to severely limit his class and career choices.</p>
<p>I like to stay up late and read and watch movies. I can do that when I’m on vacation but not when I have to be at work at 8. Even if I really want to. Even if all my friends are online at 3 am. That’s just life.</p>
<p>I am surprised you actually know so much about his sleep habits, college or otherwise. </p>
<p>So, he can get up in the middle of the night to play games but he can’t get up in the morning to attend classes? Was the middle of the night gaming also going on while he was failing the classes? </p>