<p>Well, I'm an avid commenter on my college's FB group (I'm really excited about college!), but I'm a bit worried that maybe I've delved in too much before really speaking with other students face to face (or vice versa). There are some people who I've gotten to speak with a lot through Facebook and they seem like really cool people; I just hope meeting people for the first time at orientation won't be a surprise or disappointment based on what I (and they) have revealed through FB. Maybe I'm over-reacting; I'm just a bit concerned. Particularly there's this guy who will also be a freshman this year and we've been talking (just the traditional college hype stuff), he's pretty friendly, and we've exchanged numbers. I mean he's pretty cool, but now I feel very self-conscious about meeting up with everyone in a month and half. It isn't as if I've acted any differently than how I normally have, maybe slightly more extroverted than usual than online, but nothing too out of the blue. So am I just over-reacting; hope so. Has anyone dealt with this sort of thing.</p>
<p>It takes like five seconds to get over that awkward feeling (and it can be a little awkward but it’s not that bad) and then you’re fine. Conversations usually begin with “oh, you’re (insert name here), so great to finally meet you! How are you liking orientation?” and after that neither of you even remember facebook anymore. And honestly, when you talk to people on facebook, you might not always pay attention to their name (minus that one specific guy you talked about) so you don’t even remember you spoke to them before. I was also nervous but it was fine in the end.</p>
<p>My sister told me that when she went away to school, this girl came running up to her and was like, “Hey!” and she knew her name and all this stuff. My sister had no clue who the girl was, but apparently they had both been on the college’s facebook page. So just do not do this. Of course the girl meant well, but my sister was super creeped out that the girl already considered her a best friend before even meeting or talking to her. LOL.</p>
<p>Just don’t do anything ridiculous or controversial in your class Facebook group. Scutrules is right–most people probably won’t remember you unless you talk to them directly…or make a name for yourself as “Crazy Guy from the Mac vs. PC Thread.” I still remember that dude and it was three years ago…</p>
<p>I made friends with a guy on my class Facebook group before freshman year started. I was kind of in a similar situation to yours, from what it sounds like – we exchanged numbers, texted pretty frequently. When we met up at orientation it was okay, we hung out a few times, but we didn’t become friends or anything after that. I would say just don’t expect too much from people you meet over Facebook before school starts. While it might be nice to have friendly faces around during orientation, that doesn’t mean these people will be your good friends going forward throughout your college years. You’re much more likely to make your good friends naturally through your day-to-day experiences in classes, your dorm, clubs, etc.</p>
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<p>It’s true. The first month or so, there’s a rush to look ‘cool’ and be surrounded by a group of giggling friends at all times. It was funny to look at the Facebook friends by the end of the first semester – they barely spoke to one another. As fun as the FB groups are, you’ll make the most meaningful relationships in the real world first.</p>
<p>I think if there’s one thing college taught me about Facebook, it’s about how little it affects reality.</p>
<p>Take housing for example. My really good friend chose her roommate on Facebook and they were all excited about each other but it did not work out at all. They’re not even Facebook friends now. I went random and things worked out great, so really, trying to find a roommate on Facebook was kind of pointless.</p>
<p>I remember talking to one girl on Facebook and we even texted a bunch back and forth before the school year started making plans to hang out and stuff. I never ended up actually hanging out with her or becoming friends.</p>
<p>Another girl lived in my building and kept posting pictures of the cupcakes that she loved to bake on the Facebook group and kept saying she’d make them all of the time. I don’t think she ever made cupcakes and she ended up moving out of our hall.</p>
<p>Don’t fret over the people who you see or talk to on Facebook. Once school starts, you’re going to see your class’s Facebook page become a lot less active as people start to meet and greet each other.</p>
<p>Well, if it makes any difference I’ll be going to a smallish college, so I’m thinking I’ll be seeing a lot of most other freshman (which I’m not sure is particularly a good or bad thing in my situation).</p>
<p>A couple people in my FB group are starting to get on my nerves. They’re always making these stupid, pointless posts and they act like they run the school. Some of them even had the nerve to harass a guy because he got in with a low GPA, ACT, and went to Detroit Public Schools.</p>
<p>^that’s awful ArKhAik. Don’t take making friends via facebook so seriously, all! Everyone coming into college is excited and nervous - while facebook friending people is one way to take the nerve off, really the only way to make actual friends is face-to-face. It wouldn’t be bad if you wanted to meet up a friend or two from online but don’t expect that “just because you guys have been texting or facebook messaging and have so much in common” that you will be bff’s forever! I’m pretty sure of all the people I facebooked before college started, the only one I still talk to on a regular basis as a friend was my freshman year roommate (coincidentally she just happens to be my best friend, 4 years later). Although I’m kind-of unusual, once in a while people will come up to me and be like “oh you are that girl from Alaska!” because of a couple posts I made from the college facebook group. A couple people have even seen my posts on CC and mentioned something to me hahaha</p>
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<p>You just reminded me of a funny story…</p>
<p>Me: -walking to dorm at orientation, need to make my way past a girl- Excuse me…
Girl: -so the whole street can hear- OMG, THAT’S SMORGASBORD, WE MET ON COLLEGE CONFIDENTIAL! </p>
<p>hehehe</p>