<p>It comes down to the question of when one decides to back out a decision, commitment a go to the other choice. It’s impossible to say because the ends really justify the “rightness” of the decision. OP could back out of OSU and go to Alabama or where ever and feel exactly the same way there. There comes a point when backing out is more trouble and risk than it’s worth. Frankly, I don’t think that OSU is so terrible, there is so much there that anything one doesn’t like about it, one can find something else. It’s not like being shut into a tiny school in a tiny town where there aren’t a lot of choices. </p>
<p>Friend of mine’s oldest really hit the family hard. Went to Bucknell, was his clear first choice and told family he wasn’t going back at winter break. Had cleared out his dorm room and withdrawn. Decided he hated it there and was so determined he went through with it without telling family, because he did not want to hear any arguments; he was that sure that it was over for him there Went to a local school for the next term and worked, and then went onto Emory the next year graduated and went to med school and is now a doctor. Guess he did the right thing. But there are kids who do back out and then regret it I know a woman whose homesickness made her leave UNC-CH along with a lot of things that struck her the wrong way and she came back home to reclaim a local college scholarship where she stayed for her masters, marriage, motherhood, but regrets that she did not give UNC a go. One of her big regrets, now that she is my age. </p>
<p>Which situation the OP is in, who knows? I guess if s/he has the tenacity and feels strong enough to do something about it, it’s the right move despite later regrets that’s the way I’d look at it. . </p>