rejected at my dream school

College Search & Selection
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<p>Last few days have been so depressing. I got rejected at my first choice school. I really really want to go to College of the Holy Cross so badly.. I applied for the second time this time. I am a transfer student at a CC- I know it is so hard to get into a top college from a community college. It is just so hard for me. I absolutely fell in love with Holy Cross on my first visit earlier this year. I did everything I could as possible to get in. I took many rigorous courses at my college, did well in them. I volunteered. I had my interview at Holy Cross. </p>

<p>I got accepted to Umass Amherst and put down my deposit, but I really really don't want to go. I have heard so many bad things about Umass and that it is so big. I just don't know what to do. I am just really sad. Do you think I should try it at Umass Amhest? I feel I don't want to go to college anymore. I don't know if it is worth it anymore.</p>

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<p>Hi Colleen, I’m also a freshman looking to transfer. Don’t feel bad about not getting into Holy Cross, it’s only one school. You should be really happy about Umass though because it is a very selective school and although there is a lot of smack about it, I personally know a few people who go there and absolutely love it.</p>

<p>Yes, the school is big, but to be honest, it just means there’s that many more people to find where you fit in. I’ve also heard that the only classrooms that are lecture halls are some of the intro classes. Once you’re done with those, the class room sizes will be small.</p>

<p>I’ve also seen first hand that Umass offers so many opportunities for every type of person. You will find your place and make the most of any school if you go in with a positive attitude. Don’t listen to what people say about Umass being a party school because my nerdiest friends have found their place too. Be excited!</p>

<p>Also, being at a small school myself with only a few thousand people on campus has shown me that Umass might be the school for me. I’ve stayed there numerous times and every time I go, all I can think about is how pretty the campus is and how inviting all the people are. Good luck, and stay positive!</p>

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<p>Don’t be silly, of course it is worth it. I knew a guy at Hampshire college who took several classes at the other colleges in the area and said that his best class was at UMass. You know that your experience will be what you make of it. If you want to have a great time and take great classes that is all available to you there. Sample classes in strong area there, like computer science and linguistics. Or just have a really miserable time. It is all up to you. Why don’t you look for a facebook group to join.</p>

<p>I see you are a transfer from a CC. If you don’t have enough maturity to get in there and get into your major, try working for awhile and see how fun that is.</p>

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Don’t apply to colleges you don’t want to attend. Don’t enroll in a college you don’t want to attend.</p>

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<p>Thank you so much for your encouraging words! It is just so hard for me because I have always wanted to go to Holy Cross for so long, and spent all this whole year trying to get in. I am still excited about Umass though. I am trying to make the best out of it. Hopefully it will all work out. I am just so scared. Do you think Umass Amherst will be better than a community college?</p>

<p>I will have to accept my rejection from Holy Cross somehow. So hard!!!</p>

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<p>Why do you not want to go to UMass? </p>

<p>Are you feeling that ANY college won’t work because it’s not Holy Cross? If that’s the case, then time will help with that. You’re sad because of the rejection.</p>

<p>What did you like about HC?</p>

<p>What is your budget? How much will your family pay? From your answers we can suggest other schools.</p>

<p>Umass Amherst will be better than a community college?</p>

<p>Well of course it would…but are you saying that you only went to a CC for a semester (fall) and then applied to HC again? If so, then no wonder you were rejected. You only had one semester of grades. Continue at your CC and apply again next year.</p>

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<p>Thank you so much tjfernandes for your kind words. It really helped. Thank you so much again. I wish you the best luck of transferring!!!</p>

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<p>It is just so hard because I loved Holy Cross so much when I visited. I cry every time when I think about it. I am still crying as we speak… I grew up dreaming of going to that school. I really don’t know what I felt about Umass when I visited last month. I am a sophomore at a community college right now. I applied to Holy Cross for the fall of 2013, and was rejected. I applied again for the spring semester (January) and was rejected on Friday.</p>

<p>I am just scared about Umass because I feel I will be bullied there. I met so many nice people at Holy Cross and became friends with them. It is a small school where I can feel comfortable with. I know Holy Cross is super expensive, but I would still go.</p>

<p>I have a full ride to Umass, I will give it a try. I will try to make the best out of it. :(</p>

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<p>You should feel like you are in a smaller school when you are in your department and working with others in your major in upper division classes. Why would anyone bully you? That is a sort of thing that may happen in grade school, not college. If you are mistreated, report it. But that isn’t the type of thing an adult like you are walks around anticipating. What’s up with that? Get some counseling if you have problems dealing with people.</p>

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<p>You have a full ride? Be glad! Not everyone can do that! And people in college donot bully each other so dont worry about that bit. I am extremly truly sorry for you, but you know what? You got into a good school on a full ride and you will have an amazing time im sure of it! Heck with Holy Cross its their loss! :slight_smile: Smile! And good luck! Your going to have a blast!</p>

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<p>I am sorry, I didn’t mean to overreaching about Holy Cross. It is just because I am deaf and many students at Holy Cross know ASL and it would be easier for me to communicate with people at Holy Cross and to be able to understand the classes. I am just scared about Umass because it is big and I am worried that I would have a hard time to understand the classes. I will major in Animal Science at Umass, and I heard that it is a good department. So I am willing to give it a try. Thank you guys so much for your kind words. :)</p>

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<p>coolcolleen, I can really relate to what you’re saying here. A few years ago, I made a big switch from a small liberal arts college (about 2,500 students) to a large state university (about 40,000 students). It’s off-putting at first when you think about the change in environments and wonder if you’ll find your place. I know I was scared and convinced that I would be just a number, that I wouldn’t be treated well on campus because I don’t share the common interests around here. My fears didn’t prove true.</p>

<p>Here’s what I would recommend to you: </p>

<p>(a) Go into UMass with the positive attitude you showed in your last post. You have a great financial package and animal science at UMass is a really strong department. There’s a lot going for you right away, and you have reason to be happy about that! </p>

<p>(b) Before you get to school, do some more research about what resources are available. If you’re worried about understanding your classes, see what opportunities the college offers for tutoring/learning center and disability services. A school the size of UMass will definitely have resources for students with hearing difficulties, and you may find them easier to take advantage of than you would think. Find the location of those offices and drop by them at least by the first week of school. That way, you’ll know where they are if you need them. And be in touch with them beforehand to see if they have a particular way to help students who are deaf mesh with the campus community. </p>

<p>(c) Get to know your professors and TAs. If it is difficult for you to converse with hearing people who don’t know ASL, drop them an e-mail, especially if their clas was particular fascinating or challenging for you. That might open up new opportunities and areas of interest for you that you never knew about!</p>

<p>(d) You might be surprised how many people in the area know ASL. I know that many of my friends who attend college in that area took a class in sign language and were eager to converse with others. Perhaps UMass has a course in ASL or an alliance of students who are deaf, which could open up new opportunities for socialization.</p>

<p>(e) Additionally, look into other student groups with interests that you share ahead of time. My school has a list of its organizations so incoming students can find out what might be a good group for them ahead of time. Going in knowing that someone on your campus shares your passion for knitting or playing squash or yoga makes you feel much less isolated on a big campus, and it helps you know where to go in the meantime. </p>

<p>(f) Do you live in or have you been to the Amherst area before? If it’s new to you, try looking at the lists of businesses and attractions in Amherst, Hadley, and Northampton and pick out places of interest to you. If you’re so inclined, plan an adventure some weekend to visit! That will familiarize you with the area and also give you something to look forward to once there.</p>

<p>(g) If, at any time, you feel that you are being bullied, please do not hesitate to contact someone at the college who can intervene. You do not have to put up with that, and it is not acceptable. Colleges are becoming increasingly less tolerant of bullying and offer resources to deal with it appropriately. Someone there will be happy to help you. </p>

<p>I hope you have a wonderful time at UMass. I know how disappointing it can be to be rejected from your first choice of schools, but I also know that even more promising opportunities can present themselves when you least expect it. UMass might be that opportunity for you. Best wishes!</p>

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<p>Ifyou have a full ride, it means you’re very competitive = apply to Commonwealth Honors college. It’ll give you the smaller college feel (to a certain extent).
In addition, it’s still time to apply to other schools similar to Holy Cross. I think Clark has cross-registration with Holy Cross for example. Check out Wheaton college. Etc…</p>

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<p>Don’t have a dream school. Have a dream life.
There are many roads toward obtaining your dream life. Take one.</p>

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<p>College is seminal but not terminal. Think about that. What you become is up to you, not your college. And BTW, a large institution like UMass is likely to have more resources for students with disabilities than a smaller college like HC. Have you checked out the disability office at UMass?</p>

<p>Listen to Finnlet.</p>

<p><a href=“http://www.umass.edu/disability/students.html[/url]”>http://www.umass.edu/disability/students.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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<p>First of all, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move forward. I know that it can be easy to fall in love with a college but the truth is that there is more than one college for everyone. Second YOU HAVE A FULL RIDE TO A FOUR YEAR COLLEGE – that is amazing news and you should feel proud. Do you know what many people would give to be in your position??</p>

<p>So to move forward I would spend time at UMass-Amherst and look at the classes offered as well as clubs and activities where you can meet people with similar interests etc. Visit the disability office. See if there is an active deaf community. </p>

<p>Second, if you are still not happy with UMass-Amherst, look into other schools there are a ton of wonderful schools that are a bit less selective than Holy Cross. Think about what you really liked about Holy Cross (location, Jesuit ideals, size) and seek out other schools that match up. Do some research online and try to come up with schools that are particularly good for deaf students. But whatever you do, you cannot continue to hold HC out as the “ideal” school – it is not the ideal school because they didn’t accept you.</p>

<p>I found this list online by just googling for a few minutes…I’m sure there are others if you are willing to do more research.
<a href=“http://www.■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■/lists/list/colleges-with-accommodations-and-services-for-the-hearing-impaired-student/405/[/url]”>http://www.■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■/lists/list/colleges-with-accommodations-and-services-for-the-hearing-impaired-student/405/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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<p>Nice find on the disabilities office TSDad.</p>

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<p>Thank you so much everyone for helping me- I feel much better now. You guys are the best. I will go to Umass and to make the best out of it. All of your information is really helpful and I will try to make it work at Umass. It is hard for me to let Holy Cross go because I felt so comfortable and everyone was friendly when I visited the school. It is a learning experience I think. Thank you so much again. Have a good day and the very best luck to all of you!</p>

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<p>Since you have a full ride, you must have gotten into or have the stats for COmmonwealth Honors college: do apply.
BTW look into the full ride (“full ride” means the scholarship covers tuition, fees, room, and board, and sometimes provides a stipend for books) since last year there were bad surprises due to the fee structure at Umass.
In addition, you can still apply to many other schools. You have till May 1 to decide where you’re going to go: why not apply to 2-3 schools that are more similar to Holy Cross than UMass? if you’re nervous, deposit at Umass and the Honors College, this way you’re sure to have a place reserved. As someone said, go visit. Here on CC there’s a whole discussion about Commonwealth College (“game changer for Umass?”) and a specialized forum. Log onto the accepted students’ facebook, etc.</p>

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<p>I highly doubt that you’d be bullied in college because you’re deaf. College kids aren’t usually like that.</p>

<p>* I applied to Holy Cross for the fall of 2013, and was rejected. I applied again for the spring semester (January) and was rejected on Friday.*</p>

<p>you applied TOO SOON. </p>

<p>Would your parents pay for Holy Cross.</p>