<p>You have a right to be sad. Many people get into their top choice, attend, but end up feeling that it did not work out. Happened to me, way in the past. You may be disappointed now, but you may be really happy about your eventual school later. That is better than being thrilled now and disappointed later. So, I hope for you that your eventual choice ends up being absolutely fabulous in the long run. That is the best outcome.</p>
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<p>I've been rejected too ... I guess we just have to learn to cope with it. It is not the only school in the world and, think that everyone has a place somewhere....you were just not fitting there. It's like a spontaneous abortion ... it takes place to protect the future child of malformations. So think that if they did not like you, you wouldn't have liked them either and spending 4 years in a place you hate, is not something you wish for yourself...so cheer up, search for what you liked in that college and not for the name it had and think positive:</p>
<p>In the end....it's their loss, isn't it? ;) </p>
<p>Love, Ioana :)</p>
<p>As a high school student reading this forum, one thing I learnt is that it is unwise to 'love' a school or to have a so-called 'dream' school. It sounds like such an abstract concept. Should we get so carried away that we become depressed if we can't attend the 'dream' school? Come on! Let us focus on the main point repeatedly emphasized by smart seniors on this forum, viz., look for a school that is a good fit based on ALL the factors including financial concerns. There may be more than one school that is a good fit if you stop injecting emotions into the decision-making process. Think beyond the four years, start thinking way ahead. I already know that my flagship State U is a great fit for me (I have admission in my pocket already), although I am likely to be admitted to a couple of Ivys I'm not too keen because I need the scholarship money that my State U is giving me, State U's honors college academic program is something that I can thrive in, I can shine there with my motivation and hardwork, etc.</p>
<p>There may be more than one school that is a good fit>></p>
<p>Not "may" -- there is ALWAYS more than one school that is a good fit for every student. `And, to be honest, sometimes people who believe that "only" one school will do are idealizing that school. The truth is NO school in the country is perfect.They all have warts. The vast majority of them, however, also have wonderful qualities if you look at them with an open-mind without the blinders of "only that other school will do" thinking.</p>
<p>My son was rejected ED at Vanderbilt last year. Applied to other schools and got in to most. Ended up at NYU which is a far cry from Vanderbilt. He absolutely LOVES NYU and NYC. He is so happy to be where he is and not in Nashville. Things WILL work out for you- you'll make life-long friends no matter where you end up-and you'll have the time of your life doing it. Don't stress about it-you will do fine and laugh about today's angst some day. And if worse comes to worse- many people transfer.</p>
<p>100% correct thats the very best advice! good luck</p>
<p>i got rejected from my #1 school ED too. (NYU incase you are wondering) it was devastating- i ate slept and breathed the application since it was out. I thought i was a qualified applicant, and i guess it just wasnt for me, but a few hours later i got an email notification of acceptance to my #3 school so it was really an emotional rollercoaster of a day. I hope you feel better, trust me i feel your pain (its still a shock to me) but everything happens for a reason and ur better off in a place that wants you, thats my conclusion. best of luck to you and everyone else in our position =]</p>
<p>i know this may sound lame, but be positive and look forward to what you can do to succeed. don't waste your time mourning. if you really have your heart set on this school, try contacting their adcom. find out what criteria their admission decisions for transfers are based on. you can then set your goals accordingly. just think positive. almost all accomplished and succesful people are those who think positive and see every occurence, good or bad, as an opportunity.</p>
<p>i know it sounds cheesy, but i strongly believe in this philosophy and find myself succeeding more often by using it as my life's guideline. just thought i might pass it on.</p>
<p>The same thing happened to me...I went weeks not knowing what to do.</p>
<p>What you will realize is that you'll find positives in almost any school. I'm attending a school I never would have imagined myself at (UC Irvine), but I'm absolutely loving it here. No matter where you end up you will ultimately be the one making an experience for yourself, not the school.</p>
<p>Yo fungirl, there are A LOT of awesome schools out there, and I mean AWESOME in every respect. Your dream school isn't the only one. Amherst wasn't my first choice but now that I'm here I don't want to go anywhere else, not even Harvard or Princeton or Brown; the latter two used to be my dream schools and I got horribly devastated on being rejected. It's just a phase and when you get over it (which won't take too long, trust me) you'll be happy wherever you are:)</p>
<p>Yeah. Same thing happened to me. It really, really crushes you. </p>
<p>**** NYU.</p>
<p>I know it's hard to be rejected, especially when you are an excellent student who has worked so hard. It's difficult to believe this, I'm sure, but the truth is that when one door closes, another opens. There are so many wonderful schools out there! If you put your mind to it, you will find a terrific school where you will learn & grow. If you work hard and take advantage of the opportunities available at the school, you can achieve (and even overachieve)! Go ahead and cry or curse the rejecting school, if it makes you feel better, but then regroup & figure out where to go from here.</p>
<p>Sound advice, kelsmom!</p>
<p>i know how you may feel because as of now, my sat scores doesn't meet the criteria of the particular college i wish to attend. so i am like having butterflies in the pit of my stomach and praying that i do get accepted. a good friend of mine said never to take no as an answer. if that was the college of your dream , then i suggest you continue to apply their until you recieve a "yes". i hope the best.</p>
<p>No one wants to go here, but I just heard the story of a girl who passionately wanted to go to a certain school but was rejected last year. She took a year off and reapplied. This year she was accepted ED. SWEET!</p>
<p>I'm not suggesting that anyone try that gambit, but I was struck at how things can change. It's really bad news in December and then we hear later that the applicant is at a school that he or she loves -- usually it is a different school but always it is a great fit.</p>
<p>So good luck. You'll find your fit. Write "home" next year and tell us about it to encourage those who are waiting for good news after ED/EA.</p>
<p>Maybe a different suggestion. Like stated before, have you thought about a gap year? There are a ton of programs that allow you to live in other countries or you could get a backpack and take off. I decided that I was tired of life as a High School student and within months I was living in a small rural Chilean town - one that I had never seen on the map or imagined that I would be living there. Don't be afraid to take a risk if that is really what you want. Take a gap year. Reapply. It's worth it.</p>
<p>My year of abroad did not hinder acceptance to some amazing schools - but I am passing up opportunties to attend the University of Texas at Austin. </p>
<p>Try a gap year.</p>
<p>I second the gap year option. Thinking back, I wish I would have considered it. You can perhaps study abroad or work or do something else that would make for somehting interesting to talk about in admissions essays...then reapply to your dreamschool and a few others 9you may even discover there's another school you like better anyway). </p>
<p>FYI, I first started out at what I thought was my dreamschool for undergrad and when I got there was miserable. I quit and took a couple of months to figure things out. I then reapplied to a couple of other schools and had some great choices. I am glad I ended up where I am at now and can't imagine going anywhere else. </p>
<p>You'll be fine.</p>
<p>find another college to like</p>
<p>I sat in on a college rep's discussion of accepted/denied apps at Emerson. If you note at least one intelligent thing in your app., like a book you might have read (lol), you probably have a good chance at getting in. Because they are an artsy school, they are looking for talent above all else. They are very forgiving in their process. Let your true colors show and make sure you tell them how dedicated you would be to their school. Good luck!</p>
<p>I think that when choosing a career the school is not that relevant. At the end they are all pretty similar. I belive is up to the student, you can graduate from harvard and still be a fool, if you didnt take advantage of what was given to you. You can go out of a mediocre school with valuable knowledge if you make an effort and suck the information given to you. So my suggestion is be open for the options that may aproach you.</p>