Relationship question

<p>What's dating like at williams...common? more of a longterm relationship culture or mainly hookups...?</p>

<p>them peepz r ****ing all the time</p>

<p>Mainly hookups.</p>

<p>I’m not a student yet (class of 2013) but I thought I would pitch in my opinion anyway.</p>

<p>There is probably not a campus-wide relationship norm. I’m sure each group of friends or people handles things differently. Whatever you would prefer, you will be able to find someone who will want the same. Do not comform to the norm; let them adapt to you.</p>

<p>^ I like that attitude, that’s what I’ll go for next year!</p>

<p>And then you could get your head out of the utopian clouds and listen to a student going into the junior year. Williams is a school where the relationship culture is mainly hook-ups with some dating within the co-ed sports.</p>

<p>Just because you, one of the “approximately 2000” students who attend Williams College, happen to be of the opinion that the majority of relationships in campus are just hook-ups doesn’t mean that this is the ultimate truth. Chances are, among 2000 people, someone will be of a like mind. It is also very limiting to say that the dating happens mostly in the co-ed sports–what is that even supposed to mean? </p>

<p>Because I haven’t even spent a semester at Williams, you’re right, I can’t tell you what is the “norm”. My point was that whatever it is, it shouldn’t matter; that you should look for the kind of relationship that you’re comfortable with no matter what the situation is.</p>

<p>Small, selective, isolated LACs in New England (e.g. Williams, Middlebury, Colby, Bowdoin) are known for unusually high rates of alumni intermarriage. If you graduate from one of these schools, then your odds of marrying another graduate of the school are statistically in the 10-20 % range. Apparently these are among the highest such rates in the US, except for some religous schools. </p>

<p>Of course, most people get married after college, so this doesn’t necessarily reflect the situation for current students. However, it seems likely that most of these alumni marriages are continuations of long-term relationships that began during the college years.</p>

<p>Examples: [Colby[/url</a>] is 13%,[url=url=<a href=“http://www.nytimes.com/1992/11/04/news/campus-journal-marriage-talk-as-an-intramural-sport.html”>http://www.nytimes.com/1992/11/04/news/campus-journal-marriage-talk-as-an-intramural-sport.html&lt;/a&gt;] Middlebury](<a href=“http://media.www.colbyecho.com/media/storage/paper1174/news/2008/02/13/Features/College.Love.Leads.To.Marriage.For.Colby.Alumni-3207485.shtml]Colby[/url”>http://media.www.colbyecho.com/media/storage/paper1174/news/2008/02/13/Features/College.Love.Leads.To.Marriage.For.Colby.Alumni-3207485.shtml) is 17%. Midd’s rate is probably the highest, because Midd has been coed the longest. I don’t have a number for Williams, but have heard over 10%.</p>

<p>S is in a committed relationship with GF. Both at Williams. Knows other couples in same.</p>

<p>why is there such a concern about relationships? If they happen they happen.</p>

<p>I told my daughter that her emphasis should be her studies. this is especially so if she wants to go to med school.</p>

<p>Alumni marriage rates are a bit tricky to calculate. If you include older alumni, then it may bring the rate down, if the school was not historically coed. If you include the youngest alumni, then it will bring the rate down too, because most people don’t get married immediately after college.</p>

<p>At [url=<a href=“http://orient.bowdoin.edu/orient/old/article.php?date=2007-11-02&id=3&section=3]Bowdoin[/url”>http://orient.bowdoin.edu/orient/old/article.php?date=2007-11-02&id=3&section=3]Bowdoin[/url</a>], there is a better than 1 in 7 chance (~ 15%) that someone who graduated during the 1990s will have since married another Bowdoin graduate. This suggests that a lot of serious relationships got started there. I would expect the Williams rate to be comparable.</p>

<p>I think it’s a legitimate question. If you’re going to a school, you want to know what types of people you can expect to meet there, and this question addresses that. Of course no one will be outcast if they take a stand against “the norm,” but if there is such a norm, I would want to know so that I could get a better feel for the student body and make a more educated decision on whether I would want to attend that college.</p>

<p>Friend of mine on Williams faculty notes apparently high intermarriage rate, but says she doesn’t see very much dating going on in sense of established couples, etc</p>

<p>S’s JA was in an established couple. So is he. Two of his entrymates are. An admittedly small sample, but four in the same entry. Not bad. There probably are others. They are going to be juniors; I haven’t kept up with all the entry folk through sophomore year.</p>