<p>say my younger relative is applying to colleges really soon, (deadline so soon!!) but had a blowup with the school. basically, she was an incredible student, has really REALLY good ACT score (31 total) but got caught up in a romance with one of her teachers. as in, they were caught having an affair in early November year, her as a senior. And yes, she is 18.</p>
<p>they were kissing and in eachother's arms after school hours when two other teachers walked in on them because the door wasn't locked properly. </p>
<p>so basically, now she has to deal with the fact that the entire teaching staff knows that she was having an affair with one of the teachers. she's so nervous for recommendation letters and she sense that all the teachers hate her, or look down upon her</p>
<p>will college's look upon her badly for having had an affair with a teacher if it is mentioned on her recommendation letters?</p>
<p>oh she already asked for them around mid-november, but she’s is just really nervous and HAS been really nervous that they wrote something about the relationship.</p>
<p>If she is old enough to be kissing a teacher on school property, she’s old enough to ask the other teachers if they believe that they can write her a solid letter of recommendation or not.</p>
<p>Did the teacher she was kissing lose his/her job over this? Is that why she thinks that the rest of the staff hates her?</p>
<p>she thunks the rest of the staff hates her because the teacher that she was having an affari wtih tried convincing the board that SHE came onto HIM, and that he was trying to back away, but she was being very insistent. he was trying to keep his job by laying the blame on her. basically, he made her look like a sl**</p>
<p>Re: teacher losing job, I’m a little confused about that. If the student is 18, was the teacher doing anything illegal? Was the teacher necessarily doing anything unethical? The lines on this seem blurry, and probably depend on the employment contract or employee handbook of the teacher. What two adults do romantically is tricky, whether in High School or college.</p>
<p>As to the letters of rec, if I were the student in question I would most certainly meet with the recommending teaching to discuss whether her PERSONAL life would likely impact the recommendation in a negative way. If the recommending teacher says yes, it seems to me the student would want to move on to another recommending teacher who would affirm that “your personal life is your own business”.</p>
<p>PS, the last I checked, a plurality, possibly majority of college freshmen "look like sl**s by that measure.</p>