<p>Well, count me as glad I live in an area where you don’t talk about stuff like that!
The I in my Myers-Briggs profile is shuddering at the very thought.</p>
<p>Maybe part of it is that I don’t particularly care whether other families choose to send their kids (yes, even my kids’ closest friends – I don’t particularly care). I wish them all well, whether their sites are set on the local community college or on Harvard, and can’t imagine saying anything more beyond “She got in? Oh great! How nice for her!”</p>
<p>Maybe the other piece is … if I attended a school function and scholarships were announced or awarded, I wouldn’t retain that information. If it’s not my kid, it’s really of no interest to me. I would feel a little creeped out if some other parent actually knew / retained that my kid had won the XYZ scholarship to ABC College, other than maybe a polite congratulatory remark in passing, or if they had some special tie to ABC College themselves. </p>
<p>We are fortunate enough to be able to be full freight and many of my kids’ friends won’t be able to (or at least that’s an assumption I can reasonably make). So what am I going to discuss with them anyway? I’ll be of no help from a navigating-financial-aid standpoint. But they don’t need to know that. I’ll faux-commiserate about how college is so expensive, they don’t need to know we have it stashed away, and that’s about that. I don’t see a real need for “transparency” with things that aren’t anyone’s business!</p>