<p>So I transferred to my current school last year in fall 2008 as a sophomore. I took spring 2009 off, because I didn't know how much I liked it. I did meet a few people, tho didn't hang out with anyone much. I returned here this semester, and I am living with sophomores and calling myself because technically I am, and socially the kids are less entrenched and I met more class of '12 kids anyway last year. </p>
<p>So how do I get friends fast? How do I get more friends who are girls? This school is 60% girls, but I know there is a thin line between being outgoing and creepy, and at times I've had trouble with it, and I don't wanna cross to the wrong side ever again. My suitemates all know each other, tho I think they like me, but I try hard not to wear out my welcome and leech onto them. I joined a few clubs, one of which I was in last year. How long does it take to get a girl to hang out with you?</p>
<p>Also, how much does my height hurt me? I'm a 5'2'' male, but I'm not generally not afraid to talk to people, can be funny, athletic (enough), and pretty smart.</p>
<p>hrrmmm another one… if you want social help PM me</p>
<p>Judging by your post, you don’t seem to have any horribly social problems like you see on CC too often. I’d say just give it time, go to clubs, introduce yourself and chat, and invite some people out for lunch after a meeting one day. There’s no set formula for making friends, as I’m sure you’ve realized over your lifetime. One thing I can’t tell is whether you just want friends, or if you’re specifically looking for female friends because you want a date. If it’s the latter, then back off a little more than usual; we can usually tell when a guy is talking to us just in hopes that he’ll get lucky. Be friends first.</p>
<p>As for your height – I know I wouldn’t mind. I’m a 5’9" female, but I have guy friends ranging from 5’0" to 6’6" or so. Maybe it’s just me, but I’d take a funny, smart, athletic, but short guy over a tall one with no personality any day. Some girls find it a turn-off, some girls find it a turn-on, some don’t care. Depends on the person, but your height will definitely not ruin you.</p>
<p>It’s really sort of predatory (and creepy) that you’re so focused on making friends who are specifically female.</p>
<p>Er, hate to say it but you sound really creepy. Why are you so fixated about getting friends who are girls anyways? You know about the ‘friend zone’ right?</p>
<p>I seriously don’t see how wanting female friends is “creepy.” What guy doesn’t want female friends? Is it creepy girls want guy friends? Especially if they see all, or much of the rest of the student body interacting socially and romantically with the attracted-to sex? I want both female friends and romantic girlfriends. Is that so unusual.</p>
<p>I took it to mean you maybe have guy friends now and aren’t too great with talking to girls or something. I suppose I understand where everyone else is coming from; we’re gotten a number of posts by new members who really come off as creepy since they’re just looking for girlfriends and whatnot.</p>
<p>Remember a few things. </p>
<p>Humans (especially girls) want what they can’t have. Depending on your situation, you probably want to pursue your own interests, become friends with some cool dudes, and act like you could care less about females (make yourself scarce). It’s guys like this that the girls cant help but chase (and give themselves up to). Believe me, I would know. </p>
<p>And why is it creepy? because girls DO get creeped out by guys who would give an arm and leg for them. It’s just not very masculine. It shows neediness, a trait that girls HATE and are CREEPED OUT by in guys. They will literally avoid you (and guys wonder why they don’t get called back).</p>
<p>Oh and also remember this quote.<br>
“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.”
You want to BE the priority and HAVE options. Not vice versa.</p>
<p>I think if I made all my girl-advice into a sticky it’d probably be the hottest thread on the CC boards.
Because what your mother teachers you may look good on paper (being nice, etc)
But life’s about reality. See what really works.
Good Luck.</p>
<p>im in a similar situation to the original poster. i just transferred to a new university. my roomates are nice but i certainly do not see myself being close friends with them. frats arent big on campus so i dont see myself doing that.</p>
<p>basically my question is, has anyone had any success with meeting people in academic clubs? im a pretty shy guy so i figured this would be the best way to meet people (since my roomates and i are not going to be very close). do you hang out with the people in the clubs on the weekends and outside of the club meetings? im going to 2 club meetings next week (one about political beliefs and the other in regards to my major, economics). i am interested in the subject matter of the clubs but im more interested in meeting new people there.</p>
<p>and i wouldnt mind meeting a cute girl either but im not really making that a priority ;)</p>
<p>It’s creepy because the OP is a guy who said he’s painfully shy (so I’m assuming he doesn’t have any friends right now, male or female) and he posts a thread asking how to get girls as friends, specifically, “How long does it take to get a girl to hang out with you?” is a creepy comment. The answer is it depends. If you called up someone you barely know and asked to go clubbing, she might say yes or no depending on her personality.</p>
<p>Mikkii, FRIEND ZONE. Don’t be a doofus and go out to meet girls to be friends with the hope of dating later. It is notoriously hard to get a girl who is friends with you to go out with you (as a general trend) so making friends who are girls with the hope that a large body of female friends means more potential girlfriends is going to do down in flames. It doesn’t work. Just look for friends, period.</p>
<p>Why all the questions on the stupid forum like girls are a standardized product you can buy? Tch, some people never learn. Then again, most guys on CC are dorks who probably have rarely even talked to a girl, much less know diddly-squat about any one of them.</p>