@SimpleSimon I think it’s perfectly fine for you to wear your suit for weddings to the parent dinner. Or you could wear khaki pants, button down oxford shirts with a tie, navy blazer, and dress shoes (the one for wedding),
I think even that’s kind of overdressing. Perhaps the Oxford button down and khakis, with dress shoes will work.
I am going in wool slacks and a blazer (no tie). This will be my boarding school visit uniform. Not too dressed up but enough to be sitting next to some Wall Street type wearing a 3 piece suit without being uncomfortable.
I would save the suit for another occasion and go with the above. Khaki’s could replace wool pants.
I wore a blue blazer and slacks to revisits…IMO, mrnephew, you want to honor the occasion and the institution.
I know I’ve posted this before but I will do it again: PARENTS, PLEASE TRY TO AVOID ASKING SENIORS THE SEEMINGLY INNOCENT QUESTION “WHERE ARE YOU GOING TO COLLEGE?” IN ANY FORM. Not “So where are you going to college?” Not “What colleges did you get into?” And not even “Do you know where you are going to college yet?”
If they volunteer the info, fine. But realize that for many kids, the results will be pretty fresh and may not be what they’d hoped for. As the parent of a Senior, I’ve seen firsthand the ups and downs of the college process.
I’m recommending this as a parent who did ask, and have felt inconsiderate for years now for doing so.
I guess that’s true.
And my mom asked the college thing and I was like X_X
Some parents follow the student’s dress code when visiting for formal school events- ties for Dads (no jacket needed), for example. However, any kind of ethnic dress is acceptable if it of a similar “occasion” nature. Because March/April are still chilly, a light jacket would be fine instead of a suit jacket or blazer.
Exeter revisit days brought people in saris; African prints; “nice” jeans and sweaters; blue blazers, ties and khakis; designer duds; Arabian dress; etc. The teachers wear jackets and ties for men and dresses for women during the parent events.
Wait – Does that mean I need to wear a tie to the Exeter revisit day? When is that vote on the dress code!!!
@heartburner Turtleneck can be worn instead of shirt and tie but my boys would rather have a noose and be hanged rather than wearing a turtleneck. 
This topic is so helpful.
You just can’t go wrong with a blazer and no tie in this context, and for what it’s worth if you don’t want to go shopping, just wear your suit with no tie. This is standard European business attire these days and is the analog to blazer and no tie. In both cases, you have no real need to match the kids dress code. Instead, you are just trying to convey that you dressed deliberately but by not wearing a tie, you convey being more relaxed, which is appropriate…
Glad I didn’t wait any longer to schedule revisit days with DD. Signed up as the 100th attendee at one school and they were capping attendance at 100.
I took the blazer/no tie approach a few years ago when I attended revisit days with DS. I felt very comfortable, at the same time I would have happily traded my 10 year old Honda Accord with most anyone’s else vehicle.
Yes, some revisit days were already full. Sign up now ASAP for revisit days!
I’ll be renting a car so no need to drive one of our cars, 15 yrs or 20yr and still going strong.
Kids should follow dress code and parents can just do business casual.
Mercersburg’s revisit is the day before Ivy Day. Just don’t ask. Please. Although D has held up quite well, I expect that by the the 30th, she’ll be a bit, well, frazzled. Revisit will be a nice distraction. Please let it be a distraction. 
We have done revisit days for several schools over the years. Revisit days are well worth the time and effort. Not all all schools are the same. As a parent, I was able to truly feel a sense of community at some of the schools more than others. I have visited many schools and participated in many revisit days. With all of my kids, my fondest memories are of those schools who went beyond the typical revisit day. Some of the schools actually held mini workshops for the prospective students and separate ones for the parents in a way that enforced the sense of community. At one school’s revisit day, one of my kids truly felt like a member of the community. My child chose that particular school.
There is a shift in experience at revisit days……now THEY want YOU. Use this opportunity to find out things that will be helpful - for example we asked to meet with teachers in advanced science classes D was interested in taking, and talked about how 4 year curriculum in science could work. Met with two other department heads who gave us lots of info on planning courses. Just call admissions and ask to meet with one or two music/sport/EC/subject teachers during revisit, whatever your child’s potential interest. The school should mobilize quickly to meet your requests, and if not, that tells you something very important too.
Talk about the school’s attitude toward revisit days telling you something about the school! We were informed that the revisit day we signed up to attend at one school was being cancelled because most people had opted for the other scheduled day, and so they decided just to have that one. Of course, we had signed up for the one we did for a reason: the other revisit day is on Passover. No acknowledgement to us at all that perhaps this would be a problem for us, even though my daughter wrote one of her essays about what she learned during the process of her bat mitzvah, so it’s not like the AO didn’t know that she was Jewish. While I know they’d accommodate her to come visit by herself on some other day, it just seemed a bad sign to her that they were so oblivious to the issue. Given that she was already a bit turned off by that school’s chapel requirement, I think this will be the final straw in knocking that school off her list.
I’m just happy to have one less school to have to revisit!
@soxmom interesting that your daughter would have had to fulfill the chapel requirement. My first two years in BS were at Portsmouth Abbey (Benedictine not Jesuit) - the first 1.5 years as a day student and the last .5 as a boarder. I was so jealous of my Jewish and Buddhist friends there since they did not have to go to chapel and were allowed to take Philosophy when the rest of us took Christian Doctrine.
She does not mind – indeed is actually looking forward to – a chapel requirement where the meeting is non-denominational or inclusive of other religions (or even better, more just about being spiritual and reflective than actually about religion). But the school in question has an actual religious service once a week, and while I’m sure she could ask not to have to attend, she also wouldn’t want to be made to feel “different” in that way.
Revisit attire for Choate according to invitation:
collared shirts, dress pants, khakis or corduroys, skirts, dresses