<p>DS got accepted into several schools and is trying to decide among them. He'd like to revisit 3 or 4 and I just can't take that much time off work again. Unfortunately they are not all on consecutive days so we'd have to stay in the area for a full week. I can do 2 with him but just can't take off a full week. I could send him to his aunt's by train and she could drive him to the school and leave him for the day.
Is that ever done? Or could we revisit the school on our own, over the weekend?
Ideas?</p>
<p>First off, Congratulations! It’s great to be in the position to make a choice.</p>
<p>Both of your options are viable. At many schools, there are large parts of revisit day that send parents and children in different directions, and students are often assigned a student host to help them find their way around. It would be all right for your son to attend on his own, and at most schools, people will be on the lookout for lost or confused kids to help him if needed. If you call the school ahead of time and explain the situation, they may even pair him with another revisiting family. </p>
<p>But it’s also fine to visit on the weekend. As always, call ahead of time, and ask for anything specific you would like to see or if there are certain teachers/coaches your kid would like to talk to. They may or may not be around, but in a boarding community, you can sometimes meet up for a few minutes.</p>
<p>I don’t have much insight on this, but I’d just like to say that I’m doing both of my revisit days tout seule. I went to a revisit day last year for a school I ended up not going to, and I was with my parents for about half of it. I’m actually looking forward to going alone a bit, because that way I can see the school without my mom whispering her opinions in my ear.
Of course, that view isn’t shared by everyone, but I personally prefer going alone and experiencing the school without a parent, since it’ll be like that next year if I choose to go.</p>
<p>Thank you both for your input. I will call the schools on Monday and discuss the options with them. </p>
<p>If possible, It may be helpful for you to have another adult or two (aunt, family friend, etc.) attend in your place. An adult may notice different things than the child that you’ll want to consider when making a decision. We were only able to have one parent attend with child and sure could have used an extra set of eyes. There is an awful lot to take in during revisits. </p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>However it works for your family is fine - you no longer have to impress the school, and they would probably be very willing to have you stop in whenever you can, and send DC to the revisit days alone. </p>
<p>I’ve seen kids go with grandparents or another relative. I too suggest bringing an adult…if only for a second pair of eyes/different perspective.</p>