<p>My room mate requested a room change becuase me and him are different people and do not get along. I've tried to suck things up and make it work but he wants out. Will I get in trouble becuase he requested a change. Will I be flagged as a bad room mate </p>
<p>No, you aren’t flagged as a bad room mate, and it is possible that you will be assigned a new one. </p>
<p>Your room mate’s decision could be more about him than you. That said, it takes two people to have any kind of relationship. I’m sure you want the next room mate to be a better situation.</p>
<p>Even if this isn’t your fault, now is the time to consider how you might be different with the next room mate. IMHO the biggest cause of room mate problems is not that two room mates are different, but that they aren’t communicating or considerate of each other. </p>
<p>It is probably not possible for two entirely different people to live together in close quarters and not have some differences about things. How you handle these issues is a big part of getting along. Ironically, sucking things up may seem like the peaceful solution, and it doesn’t help to argue about every little thing- some things it is best to let go- but staying silent while being resentful may not be the best way.</p>
<p>This may be a good time to talk to the resident assistant or the counseling center about how to effectively discuss and resolve conflicts- a helpful life skill. A new room mate is a new opportunity, and hopefully a happier one. </p>
<p>For sure we just have different views and different morals. He says he just can’t focus in the room he has ADD we have had a few blow ups over things that where resolved. But we both agree it would be better finding him a new roommate. Will I have go talk to the complex director as well or will they talked to him and that will be that?</p>
<p>The logistics of how this will be resolved will depend heavily on your school. Talk to someone involved in housing at your school if you really want to know what will happen next (perhaps, your RA will have more information or know who to point you towards), or you can just let your roommate handle it (since he is requesting the room change) and deal with things as they come up.</p>
<p>Can I get in trouble because he requested a change will they question me. </p>
<p>You’re not going to get in trouble. What do you mean by question you? Whether or not you are going to have to talk to anyone about this will depend on your school. Talk to someone at your school.</p>
<p>And even if you do have to talk to someone, it’s not going to be an interrogation or anything. Why are you so worried about this?</p>
<p>Unless you have done something harmful- hit him, stolen or destroyed his property, there really is nothing you would be in trouble for. Not getting along isn’t a crime. Perhaps having ADD makes it hard for him to concentrate- maybe he wants a single room if one is available. </p>
<p>Are you an international student? It is possible that cultural differences have influenced your ways of resolving conflicts. In general, blow ups happen when two people just hold their anger inside until something else irritating happens and it just spills out. It is better to handle little things along the way. </p>
<p>Two people are bound to not see eye to eye all the time. Room mates can have habits that irritate each other. They can also have big habits that are bothersome- not keeping the room clean, being noisy at night on the phone or computer. Room mates need to work these things out peacefully. It is give and take. </p>
<p>If you have difficulty with this, the counseling center can help you learn how to resolve conflicts without them getting to the blow up stage. </p>
<p>This room mate situation may not be a bad thing, and it could be a learning experience. </p>