<p>I need help. I am going into my first year of college and was placed in a forced triple. The problem is both me and my one of my roommates want the loft bed. I really don't want to take top bunk but at the same time I don't want to start off on a bad foot. Please help asap! Sorry for any grammar or spelling errors it is 1 am and I am on mobile I really need advice and my parents are sleeping. </p>
<p>I see three options:
- Flip a coin. Heads gets the loft. This would have to be done later in person, or get the third roommate to do it or something.</p>
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<li><p>One of you gets the loft for the first half of the year, and you switch beds for next semester. I don’t think this usually works out well, but it tends to get mentioned in this kind of thread.</p></li>
<li><p>Give up and take the other bed, or maybe find something to bargain with. (Are there arguments over closets/drawers? Can you take a worse option there for the better bed?)</p></li>
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<p>Are you rooming with temerity?
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<p>Get there first and claim your bed. If they complain, then say that you will switch at the semester and then do it if they remind you.</p>
<p>I suggest you ignore Bopper’s advice. You have to get along with these people in close quarters. Being obnoxious from minute one is not the way to go. Forced triples often turn into doubles when people don’t show up, drop out, or find other living quarters. Keeping my fingers crossed that you have that experience.</p>
<p>Ok, I was considering that idea but decided against it. She seems very bossy, she sent me a message saying we could alternate, than she says I will take it first semester. I told her we need to flip a coin to decide but I am not getting a good feeling about this girl. </p>
<p>That was not super clear she said she is going to take it first semester</p>
<p>Now she is making a fuss about flipping a coin to see who gets the bed first semester. I don’t know what she thinks I am going to do. I am sure not going to say sure you take it! I am not letting her boss me around this year!</p>
<p>You have to bargain with something. </p>
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<li><p>Give me the bed I want and I’ll give/do this for you</p></li>
<li><p>You take the bed BUT now you owe me this.</p></li>
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<p>Once people settle into their beds many do not want to move even after the semester ends. Most people will leave their bedding on their bed for winter break so it might be hard to switch. And this roommate doesn’t seem very flexible meaning she will probably stay in that bed the whole year.
I would try to contact residential life and ask what they think you should do. She can’t just tell you what she wants because that is unfair to you. Part of being roommates especially in a triple is communication and being fair. I would tell her that you think a coin toss is the only reasonable way of solving the issue. On move in day, you could try to get there first and claim the bed but more problems might come up. I would ask res life to tell you who your RA is because they might have some helpful suggestions regarding who will sleep where. Good Luck!</p>
<p>As the old saying goes, “is this the hill you are willing to die for?”. You say that you are not letting her boss you around; she is most likely thinking the same about you - remember, she feels the same way you do about wanting the single, not the top bunk.</p>
<p>Either you are going to go to war over the bed and end up hating each other, or one of you is going to have to take the top bunk gracefully and without resentment. Is winning the single bed worth fighting for and risking a really miserable year with the roommate? At this point the two of you have made this such a big deal that it’s going to be really difficult to reach any kind of agreement.</p>
<p>Where does the third roommate for in this scenario? Are you leaving her out ? Wait until all 3 of you are present to see how things are and then make decisions so each of you gets something more and something less desirable-- bed, room location, closet, dresser, desk etc. </p>