<p>Anyone from the class of 2007 know who you're going to be rooming with yet? </p>
<p>I don't, and it makes me nervous. Sucks even more since I'll probably have two roommates. Roommates are good because, at the beginning of the year, we'll have someone to be with when we'll feel really alone... but at the same time, I'm afraid of the problems that WILL ensue. </p>
<p>Because there are always going to be problems.</p>
<p>Anyone have roommate horror stories, nice stories, or advice?</p>
<p>I have roomed with all of the great artists and generals and I must say that Leonardo was the most friendly and easy-going. It helps to be interested in the same hobbies.</p>
<p>Definitely, as cheesy as it might sound, discuss visitor/cleaning rules in the first week or so of move-in. And don't let your roommates walk all over you. My roommate first semester was a sophomore, so I was almost afraid to stand up to her. As a result, her boyfriend was here all the time and I just dealt with it. I told her once that it was a bit too much, but nothing really changed, and we didn't speak for 85% of the semester we lived together.</p>
<p>Nope. I'm really hoping for someone I can get along with, if not be friends with.</p>
<p>I really advise not being friends with your roommate. You can be friendly but it's not a good set up to be friends.</p>
<p>Hey everyone. This is a pretty awkward question, but I'm sure every incoming freshman is dying to know, so here goes ...</p>
<p>How exactly does one deal with roomates and sex? I mean, how do you come to an arrangement about ****-off, about when boyfriends/girlfriends can or should be allowed in the room and limits to that? Do you kick the roomate out and let him sleep on the couch? </p>
<p>Basically, I'm just wondering: what do most people do? : )</p>
<p>I hear people work out a "sock system": when you're having sex, put on a sock on the doorknob so they don't walk in.</p>
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Out of curiosity, why is that? I've heard it from other people too, but it seems kind of difficult to live with someone and not be friends with them.</p>
<p>I won't fine out roommates until mid-august. I won't even know how many I'm going to have until then. (it's possible I'll be in a quad or suite)/</p>
<p>the upside to living in a triple: FAR less chance you'll be "sexiled"
however, anything can happen... :rolleyes:</p>
<p>Nope, I won't find out till August. However I've been talking to a lot of people that are in my freshman class for my college and so far I've talked to a good 100 or so and they all seem pretty cool.</p>
<p>That's cool. I've been finding classmates over Livejournal, and I'm waiting for my email to join facebook so I can find even more.</p>
<p>I'd also like to know what it's been recommended not to be "friends" with your roommate. Is it because it could be harder to meet other people too?</p>
<p>Well, personally, my roommate and I got to be good friends so then when our COMPLETELY clashing lifestyles got to get on each other's nerves, we didn't confront the other about the problems or we got really passive aggressive about it. In my case, I was almost moved out of my room by my quad director because my roommate started writing me hate mail with another person on our hall to vent her frustrations, but claimed it was solely the other guy until the last minute. She also woke me up every morning before her 9AM class because she'd use my microwave (which was loud and dinged) and slammed all of her stuff around. My first classes were at 11 or 12 and I was dead silent at night once she went to sleep so I didn't appreciate that but she only thought I was kidding when I brought it up.</p>
<p>By the end of the year, we were barely speaking and I was ready to get pretty violent with her- and I'm not a violent person. I think its best to just be nice to your roommate because I feel as if this would not have been a problem otherwise. </p>
<p>Lilyana- I lived next door to a triple and the guys there got sexiled more than anyone else I know. :P One guy had his girlfriend over about half of the weekends during the year and her spring break (which did not coincide with our spring break) and I have no idea how they had the stamina to have sex as much as they did. A few times, they woke my roommate and I up at 7 or 8AM on a Saturday morning after having been at it at 1AM the night before. I have NO idea where the other two guys went, but they slept in the room while she shared a bed with her boyfriend.</p>
<p>I'm getting ready to head into my sophomore year and I'll be living in an apartment with 3 of my fraternity brothers.</p>
<p>But I'll share my freshman year experience with you.</p>
<p>When I first moved in, I had very little information about my roommate other than that he was from around the same area as me and what he was bringing down with him. When we moved into the dorms, we got along pretty well, he was very neat and clean and went home every weekend. We never really had any problems but we also never really talked.</p>
<p>The only thing I didn't like about living with him were the fact that he was pretty shy and quiet so I felt bad when I always had friends from the floor in the room (albeit he went home on the weekends so it wasn't much of a problem).</p>
<p>And the other thing was the fact that he went to bed around 10 or 11 at night and I don't usually go to bed till 2 or 3 in the morning so I didn't feel as though I could be in the room doing anything past that point (I tried to be respectful to him and his sleep schedule).</p>
<p>At the end of the first semester, I had become really good friends with a guy down the hall who hated his roommate and he tried to talk him into switching rooms with me, which was to no avail. But. when we came back after Christmas, his roommate was gone, so I moved in.</p>
<p>My buddy had much the same schedule as me and stayed up as late as I did so it worked pretty well. Eventually, about the last few weeks of school, he started to get on my nerves (and I on his) so we really aren't friends anymore.</p>
<p>With that in mind, be careful when living with friends, I'd imagine that it will be different in an apartment, but in a dorm where you have to share pretty cramped quarters, it might become a problem. Eventually when you live with someone and always hang out with them, you might start to irritate each other.</p>
<p>On the plus side, one of my other friends who hated his roommate moved into my old room and was a lot better off, so I guess something good came out of it.</p>
<p>da laundry room</p>
<p>To share my experience about being friends with roommates:</p>
<p>I just finished my freshman year. The summer before I was really excited because i had met a girl through facebook that seemed really nice, easygoing and fun. we decided we would be roommates in one room. we were in an apt-style dorm: 6 people, with two people to a room.</p>
<p>At first everything was great. We all seemed to really get along. I wasn't worried about not enriching my life because I'm the kind of person that comes naturally to and I love making new friends, so I wasn't scared that I would end up being best friends with my roommates and no one else.</p>
<p>We were so close for the first two months - we all came from similar backgrounds and agreed on so many things. After classes started, two of the six roommates started sort of doing their own thing, but the core four of us were still really tight. </p>
<p>Approaching midterms, everyone got a little stressed. We had already discovered the issue we had the most problems with: dish washing. One girl was getting really stressed out and started acting a bit colder to all of us. Sometimes she would snap at us or make passive aggressive remarks. But what I noticed was that I was the only one (if at all) who would confront her about it. Everyone else would wait until she was out of the room, just making incredulous looks at each other, and then would immediately start complaining about her. This was the first time I felt really uncomfortable, but I rarely said anything.</p>
<p>I got really involved with extracurriculars, but none of the other roommates really did. I had tons of friends and always had something different happening, whereas they had a nice routine going and they watched a lot of TV for fun. We, naturally, grew apart.</p>
<p>By the second semester, I had been completely removed from the clique (and the fifth girl had been included). I was now the one talked about when I wasn't around. I was the one everyone avoided. I would always invite them out to any of my activities and not one time did any one of them accept. </p>
<p>This unfriendliness wouldn't have bothered me so much if we hadn't been like best friends in the beginning, but since I was so invested in their friendship, every time they would talk to me like I was a child or threw looks at each other in my presence I would feel the pit of my stomach hit my throat. </p>
<p>I am usually a very self confident, extroverted, and HAPPY person, but it eventually got so bad that if I even thought about my roommates, I would feel my stomach drop.</p>
<p>So my advice to you 2007ers is not to never make friends with your roommate, but to hold off for a little while: be friendly, but incredibly cautious.</p>
<p>Unlike most college students, what hurt me most was my naivet</p>
<p>I've gotta disagree with the whole "don't be friends with your roommate" idea. Granted, you don't want to get stuck in the bubble of being friends with JUST your roommates, but living in a situation where y'all are cold to one another for the whole year can't be fun.</p>
<p>I had 3 roommates in two rooms (cramped rooms) my freshman year. I was worried that I wasn't going to like ANY of them when I got to school. We ended up all becoming really good friends, but we also all ran in completely different "circles" so to speak. Still, it was awesome to have someone to come home to after a night of partying and gossip about whatever had happened. It was also great to have people around me outside of my immediate group of friends that I could talk to about that particular group. We had a great time together, told each other pretty much everything going on in our lives, were happy to hang out with each other whenever, but didn't make each other our number one priorities. But we would curl up in bed together and watch DVDs, talk about boy drama etc, see movies together occasionally, sometimes go to breakfast together, or to events. Drunkenly if we ran into each other at parties we'd attack each other and hug. And I <em>really</em> liked having that relationship.</p>
<p>So don't OD on your roommate. Don't make them your only friend or your best friend or the person you hang out with 24/7. But be friends. Be good friends even. Don't stress too much about it either. It'll happen as it happens. Just be friendly, open, and honest. The rest will work itself out.</p>
<p>I wound up moving out of my room before the first semester ended. But, I think I was just unlucky - I probably would have been happy living with any other girl in my building. My roomate was just the one person I was totally incompatable with. Actually, the two roomates she had at another college her freshmen year (we were both transfer students) weren't compatable with her either. </p>
<p>My suggestions - fill out your housing forms truthfully. I am a very neat person. My roomate considered herself to be neat, but she was the messiest person in our entire building (not only did she leave our room a disaster, but the bathroom, the fridge, the study lounge, the kitchen and common area as well). Be honest about your sleep schedule too, and if you can, take into account your class times when filling at the survey. Know your boundaries, and communicate them clearly to your roomate. </p>
<p>Having said that, not every roomate pairing will make for a good fit - if all else fails, go to your RA. College is too big of an investment, academically, socially, and financially, to spend it living in misery for months for fear of hurting someone's feelings (not that you shouldn't be polite).</p>
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College is too big of an investment, academically, socially, and financially, to spend it living in misery for months for fear of hurting someone's feelings (not that you shouldn't be polite).
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Really good point. :)</p>