<p>Great post, blossom. OP - you say you are not enabling, but personally I’d have a very hard time letting my kid turn down perfectly fine options to continue a chase after a dream school. I think there are multiple dream schools out there for any one kid and I encourage the “here are lots of great options” vs the “one school uber alles” thinking. I love Penn too, it’s one of my favorite schools, but it simply isn’t all that. No school is. None.</p>