Okay, so let’s talk about “rigor” online.
First, this online thing isn’t new. There’s over a decade of experience with it on a mass scale, and a thing that we know about it should be unsurprising: the people who get good ed out of it are people who already have degrees and have strong motivation to finish the course with a decent grade.
These are adults. Normally they’re youngish male adults without children. They have money, they have good broadband, they have time, they’re disciplined, and they want something.
I’m impressed by what the students have been able to do this semester online — I even had a working-single-mom student who caught Covid-19 mid-course, was out of action, came back, and still got all her work in. But I think you have to be a little realistic about the fact that most kids are not ideal online students, and that their world is a mess. Many of them, even at elite schools, are poor or rural and have terrible bandwidth. I have students trying to go to school on their phones. So is this going to be as rigorous as a normal semester is, no, of course not. Are we doing more therapy and guidance than usual with the kids, yes, of course we are.
If your kid’s at a fancy school, I think what you’re going to pay for next semester is brand continuity and a bachelor’s degree in a reasonable amount of time so that the kid can move on with their life. Eventually we will lick this thing; it’s unlikely your kid will have 4 years of online from Elite Wonderland. Your kid will be maybe 21, 22, 23 at the end of this. They will manage in life regardless of whether the courses are intensely rigorous. And the elite schools that are charging you largely for a long cotillion will figure out how to move the cotillion online.
I would suggest that your kid find the opportunities here. I have a couple of students who’ve grabbed onto me like I’m a rope, because they want something — they want to go places. They ask for extra Zoom time, they email, they send me stuff to look at. I’m not of any use to them GPAwise, strategically. But they want something in life for themselves and they see that I have something like it, and they’re the kids who get my extra time. They know I’m busy, they don’t insist, but they do show up. Tell your kids to find their real teachers and follow up. Same as it ever was. I can promise you that when this is all over, the bond between a prof and the students who really emerged as the “real” students like this will last — those’ll be some well-mentored kids.