from the two schools that my kids go, neither set up for singles only from the onset. Two to a room was still being “Allowed”. Watching many classes go online, especially for the incoming freshman and even upper classmen, many parents/kids are deciding to either defer, or do online from “home” . If I had to guess at least 1/3 of the kids that committed to coming back, as time goes on are not going to. So it seems that without the colleges saying “you can come back, but you cannot”, it is happening sorta naturally. also at GW the rules to living in the dorm explicitly say that you can have no guests in your room. If you do have a roommate than that is your “family”. Not sure if a floor will be able to “socialize” in the hallway. The weather in DC stays pretty good until Mid Oct so I am sure a lot of socializing will occur outdoors. Also the upper classmen with off campus housing will have more “choices”. They are also allowing the special interest housing to still exist, with less kids. So that forms a “family”. you get your own room, but still share a common area. (mostly sophomores and up).
At RIT more live off campus , and usually they have 4 bedroom apartments . For freshman the dorm rooms are double only, plus they are using a hotel for housing. Those doubles though are pretty small.
So I have to believe in many of these schools, as more and more classes are online, just as I am seeing here on CC, many will decide naturally to either Defer or take their classes online. This is all observation.
Back to my situation
Son wants to go back to RIT even if classes are online He has a 4 bedroom 2 bath university owned apartment. Living with 3 other students is optimal for him. I think they are all showing up. The big issue is the 14 day quarantine. Before I put “plan NJ” into play waiting to hear what the school offers.
Daughter has one semester left at GW. As a Senior she pretty much had to live off campus. I do not want to sign a lease, not knowing where she would end up by December jobwise. When she had a BF that she was going to live with, she was going to stay in DC and find something there. now there is no limit. Right now she has at least 2 classes “in person”. She is very concerned though what she is going to do with her time when not at these classes. Will the Library allow kids to study there (they have rooms where one could SD). Can she get a part time job? So right now we are renting a room at the residence Inn. We can cancel anytime. It costs a bit more, but gives us peace of mind. comes furnished with kitchen and weekly maid service :). We need to get her stuff that she has not seen since March from storage, and likely will be bringing a bunch home. If it ends up that she decides to stay in DC, and does get an apartment, we can always bring it back. If her classes all pivot to online before move in , we will still drive to DC, and just get all her crap. We dont want her living in the house though, so there is talk of renting an apartment with friends who are also going to be home.
Tomorrow this all changes… This is what is frustrating about this pandemic. Even the best laid plans seem to change not only week to week, but day to day. The colleges are trying. Many had no idea that July would be that bad, but what if that predicates that in the fall/winter we dont get that “bad 2nd wave” since we seem to moving that first wave around and around. (and its not just the US, even places that had it under control are seeing outbreaks again). Maybe by 2nd semester there will be a new normal, where finally we have instant testing, and treatments that make this “flu like” . Some of the treatments that are being looked it, seem to lesson the damage and severity. This may be part of society forever, but with an eventual vaccine and treatments, livable. Noone knows. the schools and experts dont know. The colleges are trying to mitigate as much loss as possible to stay afloat. Some will be able to , and some wont. I am just happy I no longer have a kid in K-12. Though if I did the discussions about their futures would be very different than where we are now. I also anticipate that I will not be a true a empty nester for a lot longer than I imagined. Glad I did not downsize last year.