<p>'rentof2, if you home schooled your kids you’re NOT a helicopter parent . . . by definition</p>
<p>being involved doesn’t make anyone a helicopter parent . . . by definition</p>
<p>it is a fact that SOME parents are so over-involved in their kids’ schooling that they have lost their moral sense for differentiating between their work and their kids’ work</p>
<p>pretending that demarcation is impossible, or that “helicopter” is just an epithet without any substance, or that the goal of college justifies any intervention are all signs of a parent that doesn’t appropriately value autonomy in their children</p>
<p>a friend in adminstration at a local 4 years college recently found it necessary to task some orientation student workers with the job of gently keeping parents out of student-only orientation sessions; this recent action was needed because more and more parents did not respect the college’s demarcation lines </p>
<p>with rare exceptions the parents’ jusitification was that they wanted to hear what their kid was learning . . . they were literally putting their own needs above their childrens’ </p>
<p>that’s something other than just being “involved”</p>