Some people find themselves in a situation where private schools that only give need based aid are just not affordable. The way that the schools compute “need” does not always match what a family might find realistic for a wide range of reasons. Families that own rental properties or small businesses are often in this category. We found ourselves in this same “calculated need does not match reality” category for different reasons.
The choice that a lot of families make is to attend universities that are affordable.
In some cases this means in-state pubic schools. In some cases this means schools that give very good merit based aid. For those of us who live in the northern part of the US (northeast for us) sometimes this means universities in Canada. We had a somewhat unusual situation where universities in Canada were significantly less expensive than in-state pubic schools due to our having dual citizenship. However, there are some relatively affordable very good universities up there even without dual citizenship (they are not usually the most famous ones).
We found quite a few good universities that got down to about $40,000 per year per student with just merit based aid. I have heard that there are some schools that will go lower than this with just merit based aid, but we did not look for them. For us going lower than $40,000 per year required either in-state public universities, or universities in Canada, or looking at schools that we would not otherwise have looked at (such as some in the south).
One daughter wanted a small school (such as a liberal arts college) and had the stats for the top LACs in the northeast (she was #1 in her high school). They were not affordable. She went to a small university in Canada, did very well, and found a very good job back here in the US. She was doing very interesting research at a small university that you have probably never heard of, personally applied for and won a government grant to continue the research over the summer, and is currently doing somewhat similar research down here in the US. Going to a university that was not a famous American school did not stop her from doing very well (but it did stop us from running up any debt for her education).
The first step is to figure out what your budget is. The second step is to figure out which schools fit this budget. This might not include Johns Hopkins or U.Penn or Northwestern. Another very important step is to make it very clear to your twins what the budget limit is.
I would be very wary of debt. Both daughters have for example found very good opportunities after graduation that were only feasible because they did not have education debt to pay off. I also would be very wary of selling your investment properties.
I would also be wary of trusting the NPCs if you own rental properties.
We tried to be careful to avoid any financial problem if a bachelor’s degree took more than 4 years. It is not unusual for things to take an extra semester or an extra year. This did not happen for us until one daughter went into a graduate program, but it is a good idea to be ready just in case.
I might add that when I was in graduate school (at Stanford) the various students in the same program had come from a very, very wide range of universities. Many had attended their in-state public university for their bachelor’s degree. Sometimes it is a good idea to save money for the bachelor’s, and then attend the famous private school for a master’s or PhD (with the master’s being shorter in time period and PhD’s at top schools generally funded by the school).