I would like to go on a senior trip to the beach with 1 or 2 of my closest friends. It’s about a 6 hour drive from my house but I am a good driver and so is/are the other girl(s). We are all good students. We all have good morals and values. We will all be 18.
My Dad has volunteered to book us a room for a few nights and he is going to drive down in his car to check us in but he is leaving the next day so that we can enjoy our trip. The only problem is that my mom is adamant about me not going on a senior trip. She has said multiple times that I am not going on a trip. She and my father are not together.
I just want to have good, clean fun with two of my best friends. What is the best way to try to convince my mom that we will be safe and behave ourselves?
I am a parent and also did not let my kids go on a beach trip unsupervised.
Parents always think: You say it is just you and your friends, but who might show up?
You say it is just good clean fun, but what if the other one brings alcohol?
Soon you will be in college and will have more freedom. But when you are still living under their roof, they feel responsible. If something goes wrong, we want to be able to pass the red face test.
“You let her go on a trop 6 hours away with no supervision?”
This is how a parent thinks.
What I would ask her is “What would make you feel comfortable?” Like if Dad stayed the whole time in a separate room?
or is there an alternate trip you could do?
bopper is right. Find a compromise. Maybe Dad in the hotel in his own room? I don’t think you have to worry about you or your friends, its the rest of the world.
@historylover if you haven’t done long-distance driving before, I can easily see why your dad would rather drive you & your friends – would you fly back home?
For example I’m 22, and had my license for 6 years with a clean record, and haven’t driven more than 70 miles each way solo (though I’ve done several long-distance trips before).
A closer trip (as bopper suggested), or one that has slightly more ‘supervision’ (many high schools plan senior trips) should most likely work – you could try that.
I belong to a forum for beach house/condo owners. We don’t rent ours out but I can tell you that your dad renting a place and leaving is probably a violation of the hotel/condo/house rules. Most realty companies will put you out on your ear if they realize you are there without an adult. I was one of those responsible kids when I was your age and I’m sure you are but times have changed and owners have to protect their investments. Drunken teenagers can do a lot of damage. Three guys from my county were arrested TWO DAYS after graduation this year in a state six hours away. I’m not calling you a drunken teenager. Unfortunately a few have made it tough for all.