<p>One waived it, the other reduced. I'm not attending the one that reduced my waiver. That school's smaller, and the person that got it waived knows me. I feel sort of guilty. </p>
<p>I'm not sure if the deposits mean that I've committed to them. I'm wasting their time and mine by not making a decision. It's just so hard. I'm getting a job soon, and I'm more than willing to pay the waived portion of the deposit to the other school.</p>
<p>The one that was waived got waived months ago, and only because my parent made me do it. I didn't want to...</p>
<p>Contact the school and apologize. Tell them you didn't know that you could only send a deposit to one school. You need to do a lot of damage control: losing the deposit is probably the most favorable result. Worst case scenario: both schools rescind admissions because you're only supposed to deposit at one school unless you have been admitted from a waitlist.</p>
<p>I honestly didn't know that I had to do this. My god, what am I going to do? I don't want to lose both colleges because of this! God, I wish I had known. I just forgot about the big uni--getting the EDR waived was so simple. Crap! I still don't know where to go. I should probably just go to the small one. I like it, I think. </p>
<p>God! DAMN IT!</p>
<p>But I did the EDR thing BEFORE I even visited the small one. Damn it, so should I commit to them? I'm not sure what to do. I like the relaxed atmosphere of the smaller one, but I like the bigger one too, I guess...</p>
<p>I'm freaking out. I might not be able to go anywhere. What should I do?! I want to go to the second one. I really do. Damn it!</p>
<p>Also, I can't lose the deposit for one, since I got it waived. I think that may or may not have been a commitment. If that's the case, I feel extremely sorry for my first-choice, because I sent my EDR to them last week. That's where I want to go. Damn it all!</p>
<p>Go where you want to go. Send an apology to the school you turned down and you should be fine. It's highly unlikely that you'll actually get rescinded if you really didn't know about the process. In addition, call the school you accepted to make sure before turning down the other.</p>
<p>I'm sorry about the tone of my first post that freaked you out. I usually say it as a warning to people who are planning to double-deposit. What's done has been done: take it as another life lesson.</p>
<p>Oh, okay. Thank god. I had originally did this other EDR type thing at MSU, it was like $40 and I think it called an AOP. It was something else, I think. I thought they were all like that, just more expensive.</p>
<p>You don't have to elaborate in your letter, all it needs to say is this-
Dear School Smith,</p>
<p>After some careful consideration, I have decided not to attend your school. I really do appreciate being accepted to your school, but at this time, for a variety of reasons, I will not be able to attend.</p>
<p>Thank you again,</p>
<p>Alchemy</p>
<p>(deposts are non refundable so there are consequences to changing your mind, that is the "punishment" as it were, and lots of kids do it, it is the nature of business)</p>
<p>don't freak out, you made a mistake, but it wasn't the worst thing, if you feel really bad, make a donation to the school in the amount of the waiver if you can</p>
<p>It would help if you would explain what the situation is and which school you want to go to (preferably in English) so that we can make some sense of where you stand and what it is you want to accomplish. It's no big deal...but you keep throwing in all these abbreviations and breathless descriptions that are very difficult to decipher.</p>
<p>My first mistake was in early January. After being accepted to Michigan State University, I quickly sent in my Advanced Enrollment Deposit, worrying that I would not be allowed the chance to attend the university unless I sent my deposit promptly. I took note to a particular passage from the site: "Submit your Advanced Enrollment Deposit (AED) within four weeks of receiving your admitted student packet." So I sent in my deposit warily, worried that it would not be accepted because of my tardy action. I did my housing application. Then I forgot about it.</p>
<p>The second mistake was weeks later, when I was accepted to the University of Michigan. And, after reviewing the materials in my admissions packet began contemplate ways to finance yet another fee waiver. After two months of toil I found myself without anyway to pay for them. I worried that I would not be able to attend the school if I did not find a means to pay it. Then I read my admissions packet more carefully and found a quote that implied that Enrollment Deposits could be waived. I searched the umich.edu database and found a way to waive the fee and did so without in great haste -- far more than just four weeks had passed since I received my admissions packet. It was not until much later did I learn that that action was a binding decision that required no signature.</p>
<p>Later, I would be accepted to Macalester College. I received all my admissions materials and looked at yet another fee waiver. It was due May 1, and the most expensive of the three, but I was determined to find a way to pay it off eventually. I did not; I could not. Time passed; more than four weeks passed, and I worried. I searched the site but couldn't find anything about fee waivers. Sometime later I called an admission representative and ask about a fee waiver. She said that she help me get one after I visited the school. If I decided to attend the school, she said she would gladly help me reduce it or waive it completely. Three weeks ago, I visited Macalester College as a participant in a Multicultural Sampler, and immediately fell in love with its campus, its atmosphere, and its academic flair. My decision was final. I was going to attend Macalester. I called my admission representative and asked her to reduce my fee waiver, and gladly mailed my enrollment materials to the school.</p>
<p>I had worried about whether the deposits were binding shortly after visiting Macalester. I reread some materials to see how I would reimburse the University of Michigan. I found none. I asked my parent about it but she told me not to worry, that they were not binding.</p>
<p>Recently, while discussing my college decision with a friend I noted the fact that I had sent in three enrollment deposits. My comment was met with an instant "Uh-oh". She told me that students are supposed to send only one enrollment deposit; the gravity of the situation; and the possible consequences of my actions. I felt a pit in my stomach. What I tried hardest to avoid I might had inadvertently assured -- I would not have any college options.</p>
<p>you are such a whiner. Aren't you supposed to be 18? If you know you're not going to a school, write them a goddman email telling them. They know what waitlists are, that stuff happens all the time. stop being such a pansy and take some responsibility</p>
<p>Don't call anyone names - There really is no place for that here.</p>
<p>However, Alchemy, if you really have made up your mind, just drop an e-mail to the other schools and tell them you have decided not to attend. You can't expect to get your deposits back nor to have to pay for a waived deposit. </p>
<p>It's really not a big deal. All schools expect some students who have accepted to not attend. Everything will work out.</p>
<p>Yes, you need to relax. If any explanations need to be made, point out your honest situation......that you go to an inner-city school with not much assistance in the college application department, or that you were handling the application process on your own, without parent help or supervision. That you got confused and made a mistake. I don't believe that your first-choice college will hold this mixup against you.</p>
<p>Yep. You just need to tell MSU and UMich that you cannot attend. You might want to e-mail or call your rep at Macalster just to confirm that they have received your enrollment materials, the fee waiver has gone through, and that you have been officially enrolled, first.</p>
<p>Technically, I don't believe that they are able to hold you to a commitment deadline before May 1st. That's one of the guidelines of the national guidance counselor's organization.</p>
<p>When you call Mac TELL THEM WHAT YOU DID and make sure they are okay with it. You will stop feeling sorry for yourself and then you can call or write MSU with an apology and forfeit your $.</p>
<p>Alchemy-- the most important thing to do is to deal with it-- today. People on CC mean well and I have certainly learned a lot from these posts, but nothing will ever replace the true info from all three of the schools' admissions offices. Yes, you made some errors, but, everyone does that from time to time. You do need to relax, but you also need to deal with it. I would call Macalaster first, assure yourself that you are all set there, and then call the other two schools. You sound very sincere and honest, and I would guess that the schools will understand your dilemma. Good luck! Let us know what happens. :)</p>
<p>You aren't supposed to double-deposit, that's true. However, Michigan is not one of the schools who will attempt to take punitive action against students who do. Especially this year. Let them know you're not coming, and for heaven's sake stop tying yourself in knots!</p>
<p>The only thing that leaves a bad taste in my mouth about your story is the admissions counselor's requirement that you visit the school before being granted an enrollment deposit waiver. I certainly agree that a student should visit a school before committing. However, a fee waiver is supposed to be based on need, not on a student's compliance with some "best practices" ideal on how to make the college decision. I think that was a bad call on her part. But, bygones and all that.</p>