<p>Yeah, don’t return the books. She has no right to ask for those back.
As hard as it is and will be, try to be the bigger person. </p>
<p>Maybe she’ll learn something herself. </p>
<p>I also think (while remaining professional about it) after or before you quit, you should tell her your issues with her. Doing so would serve two purposes:
- It’ll help you get these feelings of annoyance out. No reason to just sit on them and let it fester
and
- Some people ate just genuinely clueless. She may be completely oblivious about how off her behavior is and may need someone to tell her about it.
That way, the next kid she hires doesn’t quit in two says because of her attitude.</p>
<p>*days
*are
(and fix any other crazy typos in your head)</p>
<p>I should start proofreading.</p>
<p>I don’t know what the email said but I can understand being intimidated. The time I mentioned when my boss sent me home I went out to my car and cried and went and hid until my shift would have been over before I went home so my parents wouldn’t find out. lol. In my opinion, the stand up thing to do would be to call, apologize for missing the appointment and explain that you had been hospitalized. Say that you’re sorry that this arrangement has not worked out and that you hope she finds someone better able to suit her needs. Tell her that it was your understanding that the books were a gift and you do not have them anymore, and you are sorry if there was some mistake. I would ignore anything else she said unless strictly necessary, you have nothing to gain from arguing with this person. At that point you can ignore any further messages from her. You have exited the situation with your dignity in tact and given her no further justification for being a crazy person. If she continues to be a crazy person, you are off the hook because you took the higher ground. I think an email would also be permissible in this case since she initiated contact that way. Just my two cents.</p>