WARNING:
I will be discussing sexual abuse, child abuse, mental illness and other sensitive topics. Please do not read if this could trigger unwanted feelings or memories. Thank you.
Hello,
I would like to know if I should include this info in my college essay. I will be applying to UPenn (Wharton), USC (Marshall), UC Berkeley (Haas), MIT (Sloan) & more. I am a Canadian rising senior (Class of 2020). I am also a female.
First and foremost, I’ve read many different perspectives on the inclusion of sensitive topics in essays. I will not be going into the details surrounding the abuse, nor would I like it to evoke feelings of pity. Some say that it is a terrible idea, others say that it can be a powerful essay. Additionally, the police know everything. Let me know what you think:
My father abused my 2 sisters and I as children and teens, as well as my mother throughout their marriage. They got divorced when I was 6 and shared custody ensued. While I recognized that he was physically, emotionally and verbally abusive, I did not realize that it was sexual until the night before my first exam in grade 10. I freaked out and did not do very well. I left his house and completely stopped going to school for the next 5 months. I became extremely depressed, anxious and suicidal. I lost my will to live. During this time, my older sister developed extreme mental health issues. She was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, PTSD and other illnesses. She became extremely abusive due to her illnesses. Because of this, I stopped my healing process and began co-parenting with my mother. I learned to coach my sisters, my mother, and those around me. At the end of grade 10, I went back to school for a bit and finished up. I received a much lower average than I would have liked because of these issues (I am Canadian - we do not use GPAs). This average was a 91%. I did not plan on going back to school whatsoever. A week before the 2018-2019 school year (a week before the start of grade 11), I forced myself to attend an interview for an extremely competitive private school. I am so fortunate that I was accepted, as my education has completely saved my life. It gave me the motivation to start living again and without it, I truly would not be here today. I began participating in numerous EC’s, creating relationships with teachers and students, and working extremely hard. Today I am the president of 4 teams/clubs (of which I’ve designed individual training programs for each), the founder and president of 1 club, have won numerous awards, have the highest grades in my class, and was accepted into a competitive pre-college Wharton program. More importantly, I wrote 2 articles on the importance of mental health education in schools, both published by very prominent newspapers in my country (Canada). I also developed a mental health program, of which I won an Innovation Technology award for. I’m meeting with school board execs to discuss the implementation of a mental health program, and am looking to create opportunities for battered women living in shelters this summer (for example, a fundraising fashion show centred on helping these women feel beautiful and comfortable in their own skin again & a lot more). When I come home each day, I am still presented with these struggles. They are an integral part of my life as they’ve made me who I am today. If not for them, I would not be pursuing mental health initiatives or have discovered such a deep appreciation for education. As much as my experiences have hurt me, I’ve grown into someone that I’m proud of, and a young woman who is no longer just a victim.
I understand that these are controversial subjects. Therefore please let me know if I should omit some parts (such as the sexual abuse) or just not talk about it at all. Keep in mind that I do believe that this is an essential part of my story and my life. I appreciate all the different POVs that will be shared.
Thank you all in advance