Should I incorporate a terrible experience in my life?

<p>I'm a junior, about to become a senior since school is practically over. I've been thinking about what to write my essays on. I really like automobiles, and want to discuss something about my love for them in my essay, since I'm considering majoring in Mechanical Engineering. </p>

<p>But I've also had a terrible life experience, so I'm wondering if somehow adding that into my essay will increase my chances. When I was 9 or 10 my Dad developed a cocaine addiction, and eventually ended up committing suicide when I was 11 or so. It was a really traumatic time. So I have lived with my mom only for a while now. Plus I'm an African American male, so I guess that could help me sell the whole "black kid with no dad" image. </p>

<p>What should I do?</p>

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It gives an example of both a good and bad essay on death.</p>

<p>Has it shaped your life? How has it made you a better person? What perspective does this give you that will be able to contribute to the diversity of a college class?</p>

<p>Don’t think that they will let you in out of pity, and don’t make yourself such a cliche. In fact, I think your characterisation of yourself and your exploitation of your father’s death is actually rather repugnant.</p>