So I’m currently in a dilemma and wanted to seek out some advice.
I’ve always wanted a strong bonding and support system like that of a sorority/fraternity but I didn’t have the courage to try during my freshman year. Then during sophomore year I decided to try rushing but cancelled the interview because I became really busy serving on the E-Board of a club while taking 21 credits with a job and 3 other new work and responsibilities. With the new responsibilities, I simply don’t think it was right to rush at the time.
After things have settled down in college and I became more confident, I decided to rush for the same sorority again during my junior year spring. I met pretty much all the women and bonded with many girls in there. However, I messed up on the interview and was rejected. I was extremely heart broken and sad. I reached out to some of the girls and they said I was really close to getting in and many were disappointed by the results, and that if try again in senior year, I would have a higher chance of acceptance (only if I stay an extra year) because most of them knew me already.
Now that senior year is approaching, I’m not sure if I should rush again. I want to be a part of a sisterhood in college, but at the same time I’m afraid of the pain and hurt from the rejection, and I haven’t fully develop the confidence to face them yet. In addition, I feel like rushing as a senior might be too old as I should be concentrating on getting into graduate school. But I also really desire that concept of life long sisterhood I can have beyond college. I’m not sure if I’m just being immature and if it’s bad to want to join a sorority in senior year.
Also, I’m not into the parties and drinking. I’m really just for the support system.
I’m not sure what to do. Any advice would be appreciated!
I am a parent and I will say with my experience you should definitely rush again.
Clearly you want to.
In 10 years you will wish you did. You will wish you weren’t afraid.
Because you know what? If you rush and don’t get in, then you are in the same place you are now.
You are still the awesome person that you are…you just aren’t a fit for that one particular set of people at that one particular point in time.
If you try…you may get in!
Practice interviewing…realize that you are a senior…you are about to go out into the world. You will have to interview for jobs. Remember that companies (and sororities) want people to join.
Before you decide to rush again, think about the following:
-Being part of a sorority can take up a lot of time, with mandatory weekly meetings, crafts and purchases for little/big sisters, fundraising and other philanthropic work and mandatory attendance at mixers. The time commitment varies by school and chapter, but it adds up. Will you have time to take this on during your senior year, with advanced classes and planning for life after college?
-As you know, most young women rush as freshmen or sophomores, so the group of sisters In your rush group will be 2-3 years younger than you.
-Many women who rush look forward to partying in addition to the sisterhood and bonding. You may find you don’t have quite as much in common with your new sorority sisters as you think you might.
Agree with the above post. Sororities can be time consuming, revolve a lot around alcohol, be pricey and already have tight clicks formed. I’d be cautious if I were you rushing as a senior. Many of my friends felt they had somewhat outgrown the sorority mentality by senior year.
I agree with bopper. Sounds like you want to rush so might as well from a future regrets point of view. If you don’t get in, oh well- their loss. You have lots of experience to offer, maybe another organization would appreciate that.
You say you want a support system. Do you mean now at college or after? Specifically, what benefits are you hoping/expecting to get from their support system ?