So I went to a small college in a major city for my freshman year. My first semester went great, I made a lot of friends and had a great time. After Christmas break and I went back to school I was a little less enthusiastic to go back. My parents were concerned about where I was going to school and had thrown out the idea of transferring. I was unhappy with my major (nursing) and I knew that I needed to choose another career path bc I just wasn’t cut out for nursing. Also during this time I had gotten pneumonia and then fractured my ankle a few weeks later. I was frustrated and in a major funk during my second semester and my grades suffered. I made a quick decision to leave the school and come home, and I told my parents it was because I hated the school and the location and didn’t fit it with the school. This was only slightly true. I hated the school because I hated my major, the location was a major city and I was from the suburbs of another major city. I transferred to a community college near Home and I’m happy but also miserable, if that makes any sense. I’m happy because I do love being home and I finally changed my major. But being at home makes me feel lonely and isolated. I don’t have any friends and I feel trapped in my house. My parents are happy I’m back and we have been trying to make it an easier transition back home but all I can think about is what I gave up at my last school. I have visited the school 3 times since the start of school in September to see my friends. I still talk to them everyday. I want to go back to my old college and have even reached out to the admissions office to see if I would still receive the scholarship I got in my freshman year for next year (my junior year).
I don’t know if I want to go back because I miss my friends/ the freedom. I am in a depression being home and really miss college life. I’m so frustrated and don’t know what to do, AND I’m afraid of how my parents will react after I left my previous school because I was miserable there at the time.
I don’t think you understand why people go to college. They are not going to college to get friends and freedom.They go there for higher education. Sure, you live there on your own for the first time and you feel more free from your parents and et cetera but it comes with serious academic dedication.
I also don’t understand why you transferred to community college only to hate it later. You could have requested a leave of absence to college so that you wouldn’t have to deal with this hassle. You need to make a careful decision, and it seems like it wasn’t well-thought one.
You can’t be happy and miserable at the same time, either. Either you are content, or miserable. Make up your mind.
What do you want to do in future? Nursing is out because you aren’t cut out for it(your words), so you need to figure out what you can do well and make a living with it in future.
Your old college looks good now because you aren’t there any more on a daily basis. You only visit for fun.
What is your new major? Is there a good program for that major at your old college? That is what should frame your transfer goals. It is possible that there is a different college or university that is close enough to your old one for you to socialize with your friends, but that offers a better program for your new major, so do look at options in that same urban area.
And please, come clean with your parents about the story you told them last year about “hating” your old college. You were in the wrong major, and you had serious health issues. You didn’t need to make up an excuse to leave that college. Your parents would have understood that you needed a break and needed to re-consider your options if you had told them all of that last year. Tell them that now so they can support whatever decision it is that you do eventually make about transferring in order to finish the last two years of your degree program.