<p>hey thank you for reading this, so the thing is that I just get accepted into a way better flagship public school(in terms of ranking) than the one I currently attend, but there is this woman who has been interested in me for two years,and I just started loving her back at the end of the semester,we've never talked but now I am really obsessed with her day and night,that I want to stay, should I? Thank you for sharing your thoughts.</p>
<p>Transfer if you like the other school better and you can afford it. Staying for a relationship is just a bad idea.</p>
<p>Transfer. For so many reasons. </p>
<p>This isn’t a relationship. This is an obsession.</p>
<p>You guys have never even talked. </p>
<p>Transfer.</p>
<p>The answers are not quiet what I expected.I was expecting 50/50 transfer or stay.well,although we’ve never talked but she has taken some actions to show her interest multiple times and I was not aware of until last couple days of school( You can’t imagine it as an outsider though) I think what I am gonna do is to take summer classes at the new school and see if I like it, if not I think I am going to stay. #Btw are all the people answering here nerds who only pay attention to ranking? Just saying cause I want opinions from general population.</p>
<p>I would not stay for a person you have never talked to. If you were in an actual longer term relationship, it would be a different story. Don’t you have to make up your mind before the end of the summer where you are going to enroll?</p>
<p>Sorry but you sound creepy and probably misinterpreted her signs. For HER sake, transfer now.</p>
<p>No, the people that are answering aren’t nerds who only pay attention to ranking. The people who are answering see that a girl showing “interest” is no reason to stay at a school. You have no relation with her. She’s not a legitimate reason to stay. I see your situation as just a person who has an opportunity to go to a better school. If the school won’t set you back financially and you are comfortable there, go to the new school. There will be more girls.</p>
<p>Michigan, I turned down Michigan for a less prestigious school so you tell me whether or not I’m a nerd obsessed with rankings :rolleyes:</p>
<p>You sound creepy. Sorry.</p>
<p>No whenhen I am not misinterpreting anything.Maybe I will misinterpret one or two times but like I said, it’s been two years.</p>
<p>Sorry but all of my first semester I was stalked by a guy that misinterpreted everything I did as a sign that I was obsessed with him. So maybe she, a girl that you’ve NEVER talked to, is actually obsessed with you, but I seriously doubt it. Also does a relationship built on obsession sound healthy at all?</p>
<p>Why would you seriously doubt it? I will follow my plan anyways #outsidersjustcantcomprehand</p>
<p>There are situations when I might recommend that you stay. My D and her BF were in this situation while sophomores in college. He applied freshman and then again sophomore year to transfer from their 2nd tier LAC to Georgetown. He got in the second attempt, but then decided to stay at their LAC. Partly because he was doing really well at the LAC (great grades, was getting very good summer internship opportunities, had tons of friends). But also partly because of my D. Fast forward to now, 3 years later. They both graduated Phi Beta Kappa from the LAC. Both got great jobs. They live in the same city and are still a happy couple, very likely will tie the knot in the next few years. But they had a solid year long relationship behind them when he decided not to transfer. I think both knew the other was probably “the one” for them for the rest of their lives. When he honestly thought about transferring, he decided he likely would not get a better education in his major or have better employment opportunities after graduation. He had applied mostly to prove that he COULD get in, not that he really wanted to all that much when he actually had the opportunity.</p>
<p>I can’t imagine that you should give up what is clearly a better academic opportunity for a girl who MIGHT like you, but you haven’t even been out on a date with her. Go to the new school. Keep in touch via Facebook, get together over the summer or vacation if it makes sense.</p>
<p>what intparent said.</p>
<p>As an idealist and perfectionist, it’s hard for me to think like most people, I am just going to follow the “general thinking” for now…</p>
<p>You do kind of sound creepy. </p>
<p>Transfer if you want, but I’d forget about the girl.</p>
<p>I don’t think an idealist and perfectionist would debate not attending a better school because you have a crush on a girl you’ve never even talked to in your life. I think you would get the same response from us even if you had actually been dating for a month, but I’ve literally talked to this girl as much as you have. It’s just a crush.</p>
<p>If you’ve never talked how do you know the type of interest that she has in you? Anyway, what other people said. Don’t stay behind for a very strange and slow moving relationship. GL</p>
<p>I don’t think you sound creepy. My question is what is stopping you from talking to her right now? It’s possible she likes you but if you don’t talk to her you will never know. How far away is this school that you are transferring to? </p>
<p>My advice would be still plan on transferring but ask her out on a date. See how it goes this summer. If the two of you continue dating then you can always do a long distance relationship. If it’s meant to be it will work out however you need to talk to her to see if she really has feelings for you. Otherwise even if she does like you, she may end up with someone else.</p>