I’m currently an incoming freshman at StMU. Before I couldn’t wait to leave home and was very excited about finally making a decision, but now I can’t help but feel worry and regret. I applied to 7 colleges my senior year including to 2 colleges in Houston (UH and UST), my hometown. Out of the colleges outside of Houston, I loved StMU the most and decided to go there. When I visited StMU, I loved all the current students I met and am actually good friends with one now. I loved the small campus community feel and how all the students I talked to always mentioned how caring and willing the professors are to help you.
I move in this Friday, and every single bit of the excitement I felt is gone. I just feel extreme regret and fear. During college app season, I was going through a bit of family drama and couldn’t wait to leave home, so although I applied to UST and UH, I didn’t really care for them at all. UST also invited me to apply for their honors college, but I never did because I was so set on leaving Houston. I also could’ve applied for UH honors, but never did for the same reason. I feel like I’ve turned down some really great opportunities because of that. Also, to make matters worse, I could’ve saved my family a lot of money if I had just stayed at home and commuted to college. Another thing is that both UH and UST have dance majors and UH even has dance organizations on campus you can join. StMU only has a college dance team, which I’m not interested in (I was never on a dance team and don’t have the skills to be on one). I love dance with a passion and I don’t want to give it up ever because it makes me feel so much relief. At StMU, my only option would be to go to a dance studio, which costs quite a bit of money. I intend on doing pre med, and I feel like Houston has much better resources than San Antonio because of the TMC. Finally, I’m terrified of leaving my mom and sister. I’m very close with both of them and they’re my entire support system; leaving them is going to be the hardest thing I’ve ever done and I’m not at all ready to do so. I kind of regret my college decision and really wish I would have thought through it a lot more.
I’m considering transferring to UH for next semester. I think I should have a good chance at getting accepted since I’ll be looked at as a freshman applicant and already got accepted the previous application cycle, and I’m also considering applying for the honors college. Should I transfer back to Houston? What is the process like? Will transferring hurt my chances of getting into a good med school? Please help
I move in this Friday,
Ok, slow down. Take a deep breath. You move in this Friday…focus on the now and put your best effort and attitude into the start of your college career. You can’t evaluate your decision or start to make any changes until you give this at least one semester. That means a semester of being focused on the present and giving this your best shot. Later, you can look back on your semester (or year) and make some decisions but if you go into this already thinking about transferring, I guarantee you won’t like it or be happy. A lot of students get anxious right before it’s time to leave home and start college. Many second guess their decisions. The decision has been made. Put that out of your mind and move forward. Good luck! You can do it!
great advice ^^^
StMU - is that St Mary’s in SA? I’m sure they work closely with UT Health San Antonio. It’s alway good to go away even if it’s for a semester. Focus on meeting friends and getting good grades. Transferring will not hurt your chances of getting into med school.
I’m always a proponent of transferring from an expensive private school to an affordable state university. There’s nothing they can offer that a state university can’t offer for a small fraction of the cost. Transferring to UH is a very reasonable and mature decision